I live with my boyfriend, he has made it clear that I get nothing if something happens to him. I could live in his house but I could have no man! now he has a job an hour drive away, He wants me to quit my job here and us move over there and me get another job and live in a 30' camper! I have a horse, a bird, and a dog that I love too and he wants me to get rid of them and do this move, I don't want to get rid of them, He is very controlling, I can't go anywhere without reporting in every so often, What should I do.????
2007-03-08 05:55:10 · 26 answers · asked by Gayle G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds to me like in your heart you already know what the answer is; He sounds like a very selfish person who is all about himself, what he wants , his way etc.
I never heard you mention loving him or being happy with him so my vote would be GO, find someone that can love you and make you happy and if you don't find someone soon you still have your pets and at least they are loyal.
2007-03-08 06:03:30 · answer #1 · answered by kathy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not always easy to answer when you don't know the people or exact situation. Looking at past experiences I have had with a controlling man I would say you will most likely be very unhappy staying with him...If not now then in the future. Especially when it means you have to give up things you already have or want to have... Love does NOT conquer all ! You need to think about your own feelings and well being. Good luck to you.
2007-03-08 06:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by JiminyCricket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ma'am! You need to leave that one alone! Believe me, I lived with an extremely controlling man..and wasted 2 years of my life. Why should you be the one to sacrifice? To be the one to leave the people, pets, and places you love...quit your job...and runto him to live in a camper?! Honey, this is a no-brainer. One day you'll look back and wonder why you even considered this...good luck!
2007-03-08 06:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by Tina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby gurl leave. Its clearly he is only interested in his best interest. When you are in a relationship, you have to compromise and sacrifice meaning you will have to give up something at one point of time and so will he. But if you are the only one making sacrifices and giving everything up then leave. You two are supposed to come to common grounds on decisions and work them out so you both will be happy but he seems controllin and possessive which can lead to abuse and neglect so if he is showing you this at this stage of your relationship stop it before you find yourself in a situation where you are vulnerable and cant get out at least now its not too late or is it?
2007-03-08 06:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by Im da Example 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds selfish. If thats the way it is now, it's only worse if you get married. Unless your one of those women that need to be controlled to feel loved. If that's the case the go to the camper.
2007-03-08 06:01:01 · answer #5 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank the lord for the easy out. Let him know you love your job and your animals and you choose not to relocate with him that you do not care for the huge lifestyle change. Who needs to be controlled anyway? Good luck to you sweetie.
2007-03-08 06:11:32 · answer #6 · answered by sunset 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave and never look back, it only gets worse with time, get out while u can, before its to late and ur trapped, which is what he's trying to do, to isolate u, make u financially , emotionally, dependent on him, to where u cant leave no matter how he treats u, DONT fall for it, run as fast as u can..
2007-03-08 06:07:41 · answer #7 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack while he's at work and leave a "Dear John" letter. This guy sounds like he's one step away from crossing the weirdo line.
2007-03-08 06:04:21 · answer #8 · answered by isisrocca82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will control your life. Do not go with him. Keep your pets and remain independent. Be very careful that you do not have a child with this controlling person. He is not good for you honey. Be very careful. Good luck & God bless you~~~~Jill
2007-03-08 06:07:07 · answer #9 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. It's a recipe for disaster and he is controlling you, has no concern for your feelings or how things affect you. Do you really want to live like that?
2007-03-08 06:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋