For example, if you have had a number of lovers, do you see a couple who were virgins when they got married, then live together for the rest of their lives as extremely naive and ignorant of the world?
Or, vice-versa, do you see people who have a string of lovers as unloyal, not dedicated, easy, etc.?
2007-03-08 05:47:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Different strokes for different folks.
2007-03-08 05:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by blcria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as sexual relationships go that's a personal choice. I admire someone who waits until they're married. I didn't.
I find myself being judgemental of people of who are in what I perceive to be unhealthy relationships. I have one friend who cannot be happy without male attention and constant companionship. She likes a man to be jealous and possessive of her. I think she needs to get a life and be in charge of her own happiness. Another married a man who is an absolute abusive jerk, very controlling, she's not allowed to go certain places or do certain things and she sticks up for him all the time, even the day they got married and he yelled at her in front of the pastor and her parents and made an *** of himself at their wedding reception. That's because she never wanted a career or to be self-sufficient, she always wanted to latch onto a man and have a baby so they can play house and she won't have to work. He's the first one that came along. These are very different from the way my goals and relationships are and I think that woman who cannot stand her own has a major weakness of character.
2007-03-08 14:15:45 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't, but we are one of the relationships people frown upon - we were virgins when we got together, he felt like he had missed out on experiencing sex with other women, so I let him, as long as I get to pre-approve the woman. People call it cheating even though it is with my full knowledge and consent, say he'll bring home AIDS, assuming that we aren't careful, even say we shouldn't have married...
I try not to judge others, but it's easier not to when you're the one being judged, lol!
2007-03-08 13:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each situation is as unique as each of the individuals are unique. I do not frown upon people who have relationships differently than I do, but if it someone I care about such as a close friend has a different relationship style as me is not big deal as long as the relationships are healthy for them is all that matters to me.
2007-03-08 13:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by KristinaMaria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I let each other see other people purely for sexual purposes. It spices things up and removes the temptation to cheat. It's not cheating if both parties are aware of and agree to it, so we have an excellent relationship with a lot of trust and love. The only people I have problems with are those that wait until marriage to have sex, because 80% of the time that ends in divorce because you do not completely know your partner yet. If you're both virgins when you have sex but have not waited until marriage, that's just happenstance.
2007-03-08 13:52:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
To each his own, I feel like it's noone's but, the person in the relationship how they choose to live...no way is right or wronge, unless you want to get into the bible...I say let people live as they choose, and then they can choose if the consequences of their actions is worth it..
2007-03-08 13:56:45 · answer #6 · answered by Confused 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was not a virgin when I married--but I did have principles--I did have to feel love for a man I slept with.
Many of my friends did have one-night stands--and I couldn't understand how they could do this with no feelings. For me, this is an act of love--not simple recreation.
2007-03-08 14:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't respect anyone who acts like a 'ho' and what I mean by that is they have casual sex with many different partners. But, on the other hand, what people do in the privacy of their bedroom isn't anyone else's business. If they want to get diseases and be known as a 'ho', it's their life.
2007-03-08 13:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I have learned "to each his own". I have gone through numerous fazes in life where I have wanted different things so I think that I am very open to each person following their own heart.
2007-03-08 13:51:10 · answer #9 · answered by Semi-charmed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course I have opinions about both of the extremes you have listed here. Doesn't everyone?
2007-03-08 13:55:33 · answer #10 · answered by csucdartgirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont judge lest I be judged. Hate the sin love the sinner
2007-03-08 14:05:10 · answer #11 · answered by nylatinanurse 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋