can any1 help me, whats all the signs that ur gay or bi,?

Question

can any of u help me out there, whats the signs for being gay or bi, and has any of u had a teenage phase before

Answer 1

You sing ABBA songs in your sleep and start drinking lemon fanta.

Answer 2

Some people probably do have teenage phases but I'm not too sure about this. I once read that in a magazine & so I believed that what I was feeling was nothing more than a teenage phase. It took me years to finally accept that I was gay as I kept making excuses such as perhaps I was growing up later than most people etc. I wouldn't worry about trying to put yourself in a set category such as bi or gay. Sexuality is a complex & individual thing, take your time - don't rush the process of working out how you feel. You could always contact a LGBT helpline, & research sites on the internet etc to help you work out if you have had similar experiences or feelings. The obvious sign for being gay is that you are sexually attracted to people of the same sex, & bi - both sexes. Only you can work this out though. Good luck & don't worry as lots of people go through this. If you are gay / bi / straight or whatever these are all equally normal. You are who you are. Don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

Answer 3

'Gay', 'bi' etc are just labels that people have attached to behaviour and people's characteristics, partly as a remnant of when being gay or different to the mainstream was seen as a condition. I don't much care for labels as our personalities change through our lives and behaviour is not who we are, just something that we engage in.

There is an enormous range of variation between people who could be categorised within 1 of these sexuality types. My advice is not to rush into putting yourself into any box. Feel free to explore and understand your own sexual and emotional interests. You can date without sex of course. It sounds like you're younger than most people on here and maybe you're just very aroused, due to hormones etc. I've worked with a ton of people who are confused about their sexuality, mostly because of society's lack of full acceptance of all choices equal - if there wasn't this pressure, there would be less of, or no problem. Whilst many teenagers experiment, there are a huge number of more mature people who do so at a later stage in their lives. There is no rush.

Consider meeting other people who might also benefit from talking things through, perhaps at a bisexual/gay youth group. If you want to take things further, then you could - whether as a quick fling or a relationship, the same as dating a girl.

Take it easy on yourself. Good luck! Rob

Answer 4

As a teenager, there is no certainty about your sexual orientation. All the way up to the age of 16, I appeared to be gay as I only had crushes on the same sex. At 16, I had a major heterosexual crush, and then alternated between heterosexual and homosexual crushes - so this would make me bisexual.

To make things even complicated, I've swung more in the heterosexual direction - identifying as a Kinsey 1 or 2, which means I'm a heterosexual leaning bisexual. A bit different to when I was 14, where I'd have been a Kinsey 6.

Answer 5

You have to ask yourself one question, is it boys, girls or both that really push your buttons? Do you look at boys and your heart pounds, you feel hot, is there somone you want to be close to or think about all the time?
The same applys to girls too, if its both you are propably BI, if its boys then your gay.
Its as easy as that but you could be just hormone imbalanced at the moment or just curious.
Teenage phase, well almost everyboy has to go through it so they can develop their sexuality.
The way to know for sure is to let nature take its course and have safe sex, that you feel are right for you & whoever is of an age to choose to have safe sex with you.
Take care and develop naturely in your own time. David ;)xxx

Answer 6

There are no signs - like a cold coming on - but it's a very personal journey of realizations of your own uniqueness.

I will tell you that now in hindsight (I'm 29 and now see that at 11 I saw the first 'signs) there were a few 'doi' moments.

I remember doing alot of staring. I'd catch myself in a full on gaze at another female. I thought this was becasue I wanted to be like them, but I now realize I wanted to be with them.

I also had this problem with men's phycality. I found them totally repulsive and sexual contact literally made me ill. The only way I could get through was to imagine women.

It's different for everyone, but in the end it's a good long talk with yourself that will give you the answer.

Answer 7

I would have thought that was obvious - you fancy both sexes if you are bi and the same sex if you are gay.

Some teenagers go through a phase would suggest you refrain from gay sex if you are unsure, once youve done it with a gay there is no unsure about it.

Whichever use a condom unless you want to risk HIV.

Answer 8

The biggest sign for me is that I would get extremely intense crushes on members of the same sex. Unfortunately, I usually had crushes on straight women - but thats the way it goes sometimes!
There was no real "phase" for me. It was pretty much since dance class when I was seven til now...

Answer 9

if you are a teen, especially going through puberty, your body is out of control. Do not worry too much one way or the other about how your body reacts physically. Being gay is not so much how you feel physically as it is how you feel mentally.

You are young and have plenty of time to figure it all out. You will know for sure when you find that special person, be it a man or a woman.

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Answer 10

The signals are pretty easy to determine. If you find yourself sexually attracted to guys & girls that means you're bisexual. If you're only attracted to guys, then it means you're gay.
Teen phase? Since I was young, I knew that I liked men, and had nothing for girls, but I didn't know what did it mean back then. And when I knew, it took me some time to fully accept myself. I now like being gay and enjoy it.

Answer 11

I'm bi, I have been going thru a phase all my life and I'm 28. Now I just enjoy the views ;-)