social life...?

Question

Im 18 and dont really have a social life. Growing up i never really had many friends because i just didnt extrovert myself. this is an issue with me and i want to solve it. i want a social life and im tired of being alone all the time. im not a bad person or anything, i just never really had the chance to do anything.

what can or should i do?

Answer 1

Don't feel like something is wrong with you even if you DO enjoy spending the majority of your time alone. I am this way. But if you would like to meet new people, you'll have to open up yourself a little. To get over your fear, you just need experience being around people. Over time, you will begin to feel more comfortable. Choose people who are like minded with you and your interests, this way you will not feel intimidated by them, and you will be able to open yourself up better and get used to being around people. Over time it will become easier. Every new experience takes time to get used to. Be patient and let yourself open up naturally. Don't force it, or you will end up becoming someone you are not just to fit in. Even developing friendships on the computer will get you to open up. It's a good start. I know way back in the day I was dealing with alot of anxiety in social situations. I was never good at speaking to people. Yet I was really good with my words when they were on paper. It teaches you to think before you speak, because you have the ability to think about what you are wanting to say before typing it. It helped me out alot when overcoming my own shyness, and getting myself to be more social. Good luck!

Answer 2

Join a club or team. It could be a book club or bowling team or bicycling group. Volunteer at a charity event or hospital. Join a church youth group. There are so many organizations to choose from. Maybe you think you would not be a good team player, but you'll never know if you don't give it a try. You are right to want a social life. We learn and grow through interaction with other people. Life is far more interesting when you are with people who share your same interests, so find a way to put yourself out there. You'll be glad you dud.

Answer 3

I'm guessing that you're in school or is going to be going to school soon. I had the exact same problem you have and I overcame it by just doing these things:
Take a look back in time & evaluate my actions, don't try to relive it again but pick up warning signs from people & their reaction to the presence I had, and what made them not like what you were doing.
You should be a leader in persuasion, common sense, have a different opinion, and explain it to articulate a mental picture of scenes that I'd like to portray to others.
Just know that others will accept you and you have a lot to offer including your opinions, your advice, your personality. Let others see who you really are and what your soul really represents.
Please read my blog on my 360 page (the link is in the source section) and leave me a comment on how this may have helped you. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Accept yourself as a loner. Being alone is not the end of your life. Being alone indeed would make you become a better person of yourself because you might be able to hear your inner voice and the voice within your heart in spite of everything. You grow up better in loneliness.
It's the society that always-always perceive someone who is alone as a venomous freak or someone to be feared. It's the society that have that kind of stereotypical idea of a loner. Until those loners feel like an outcast inside that society. Sad but true. Society tend to have such an unhealthy social disease.

Answer 5

Joining groups or clubs is a great way to meet people. By doing this you'll meet people that also share a common interest as you. You could also sign up for different volunteer activities or join a team of some sort.

Answer 6

just relax and maybe just hang around different places and just talk to someone its not a bad thing to make a new friend anywhere just say hi or ask them where they are from just dont be too pushy about it you will start having a social life sooner than you think. try and stick by people who share some of the same interests and hobbies as you then it is easy conversation and it will make hanging out easier too good luck

Answer 7

well you have any friends at all? if so, try to meet some of your friends friends. if not, try to get a hobby, an afterschool club (youre in school, right), or take up a sport, people, guys in particular, get to talking when they play sports.