I'm scared of having sex after my 6 week check up after the delivery of my son. My appointment is in 2 weeks. But right now my clitoris close to my pubic bone is sore and the rest of my vagina still feels a bit sore or rubbed raw. Do most people feel okay after 6 weeks? And how long until sex actually fels normal and good again? I had like 3 stitches, they said it wasn't bad at all. But I'm just wrried that it is still sore and its been 4 weeks already.
2007-03-08 05:42:44 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Everybody heels differently, I heeled very quickly I also had about 3 stitches, but before my appointment I felt like having sex again! I waited till after the postpartum appointment the doc said everything was fine so I went for it and I was scared at first but once we started going it felt different like I was still loose down there, I told my husband I wanted to wait a bit longer before having sex again and he understood!
Tell your husband/boyfriend whatever! That you want to wait until you are comfortable again to have sex, tell him you are still recovering and some people take longer to heel than others. And tell him your doctor said its not okay to sex if you don't feel recovered.
2007-03-08 06:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by mcm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The purpose of the six month check up is to make sure everything is healing properly and to determine weather or not you are physically ready for intercourse again. You can do a lot of healing in two weeks, so chances are you wont feel the way you do now when the time comes. You are sore and rubbed raw not only because of the birth, but also wearing pads for weeks on end can make it feel that way. Don't get yourself all worked up over what will happen 2 weeks from now, if you're not ready at that point there's nothing that says you have to. Good luck and congratulations!
2007-03-08 13:59:53 · answer #2 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You take your time. You have sex when YOU feel ready, not when your husband/partner wants to. I had about 20-30 stitches but I was lucky in that I didn't feel sore afterwards. I was ready for sex after 2 weeks but my sister wasn't ready for a couple of months, and she didn't have a vaginal delivery. It all depends on how you feel. If you still feel sore then don't have sex otherwise it'll become a chore for you and you won't look forward to it. Your doctor should check you over if you're still sore in 2 weeks and he/she should be able to tell you if your stitches are healing properly. Congratulations on the birth, by the way!
2007-03-08 14:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 weeks is just a guideline. Every body is different and just because the Dr. gives the green light for sex doesn't mean that you are going to want to jump right into it. It may take your body a few extra weeks to actually feel comfortable having sex again.
Make sure you talk to your Dr. about any pain you are still having at your check-up. It may be that the Dr. doesn't even give you the go-ahead yet.
When the time comes that you are ready to try and it doesn't feel right, just stop and wait a little longer. It will eventually feel good and right again.
Remember, your body just went through a traumatic experience. It isn't going to just bounce back because most Drs and books say it should.
Good Luck and Congrats!
2007-03-08 13:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. After 6 weeks you'll be medically cleared, but not all women feel comfortable still. I did but not all do.
Remember to take your time, and use lube (KY or some other brand). It may be tender the first couple of times though. It's been a month since we were able to have sex again and it's enjoyable now but sometimes it's still tender.
Don't rush yourself. If you don't feel ready for sex have fun other ways. Oral might be a good way to start if you spouse/significant other will do that with you.
2007-03-08 13:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried after I had my son at the 6 weeks. I had to wait till around 10 till it felt normal again. I had a couple stiches also. You never know till you try. Make sure you use lots of lube because after having a child you tend to run dry, and do whats comfortable. Everyone is different. 6 weeks is only a guideline!! Good luck!
2007-03-08 14:01:24 · answer #6 · answered by Jay & Steph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything any sooner than you feel your body is ready for it. I waited 3 months. At six weeks I felt like I still wanted to be gentle to that area...even though I had gotten the go-ahead from the Dr. Only you know what your body needs, just trust your instincts and don't let daddy push you into it before you think your body is ready.
2007-03-08 13:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by JordanB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your delivery -- each one of mine was different. Go to your appt and really talk to your doctor. If you are feeling 'rubbed raw', you might just have a small infection. Even though you had 3 stitches -- that area 'can' rip during intercourse until it is fully healed (again, depends on your rate of healing!). After you get the 'go ahead' from your doctor -- talk to your husband and explain your fear, just have him go nice and slow until you are comfortable. Good Luck!
2007-03-08 13:51:55 · answer #8 · answered by GP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal to still feel pain even 6 weeks after i did for my first one and i still had problems sitting down so my x-hubby and i waited till i wasn't sore. now after my 2nd one we didn't even have to waite the 6 weeks. it's your body and your the only on who can say if your still hurting or not. but sex will feel good soon possable the first time depending on how good the sex is.lol
2007-03-08 13:51:51 · answer #9 · answered by tammed12000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The biggest thing is the fear that it might hurt. Just try and relax about it don't rush into anything. Try when your ready not when he is. And talk with your doctor if you are still in pain or have any redness or discomfort as of right now. You maybe getting some type of infection
2007-03-08 13:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by debcat76135 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋