when you see attractive women and realize your sex life is effectively over? how do you cope with it?
2007-03-08 05:42:41 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I'm not a man, but I use to be a wife who's husband never wanted to make love (at least not to me).
It's hard being in that position because on one hand you have your vows, but on the other you have no intimiacy which is vital for most marriages to flourish.
Talk to your wife about how you feel. A good book to read that might help is The Five Love Languages. You should be able to get through any Bible Bookstore or Amazon.com.
I hope things get better!
2007-03-08 05:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know when guys complain that their wives never want sex, do you think about her life? Does she work outside the home, care for the house and the kids and you, or does she stay at home with kids all day cleaning up after everyone and dealing with snotty noses and dirty diapers and dirty dishes all day. Does she get up at the same time as you (or even earlier) and continually go all day with few rests? And then the men come home and what to know why we aren't "in the mood". How about saying "Honey I'll clean up the dishes, why not go take a hot bath (wink) and I'll give you a back rub tonight before bed?" Maybe then we'd be more receptive - instead of when we finally get to FALL into bed after having been going from dawn to dark and having you guys say "Want a little nukkie?" Yeah that really turns us on! Ask your wife about her day sometime and REALLY listen. Tell her you don't want complaints, just facts. You'd be surprised by what we women accomplish in a single day! We don't just have a "day job" like most men, our jobs and non-stop - and we love it, but it's tiring and hard. Give us a break!
2007-03-08 05:48:40 · answer #2 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
For some advice as a married woman- if you take over a few of your wife's "duties"- cleaning up, helping the kids with homework, making dinner, etc., compliment her more often, and do the not so occational romantic jesture (flowers, e-mail love poem, etc.) your sex life will greatly improve.
Woman want to feel appreciated and romanced. We are purely emotional lovers. If we are griped at over bills, feel overwhelmed with house work, or are in robotic mode with all that life dishes out, we are not going to feel sexy or in the mood. It is your job to make us feel the same way we felt when we were dating you.
That attractive woman walking down the street probably has a husband at home that feels the same way you do.
2007-03-08 05:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by Ritata 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, depression is common in that situation and the only way to deal with the situation is to take matters in your own hands if you know what I mean. Cheating is never an option when you are married so you can look at and wish for those attractive women, but in the end its just you and your imagination.
2007-03-08 05:47:11 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm a woman and am having the same problem my husban just wants sex 1 or 2 a week maybe I don't know why people are like this theres nothing u can do
2007-03-08 05:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get marriage counseling and find out why the intimacy has left the relationship...and unless you're ready to settle for a sexless life, if things aren't going to change then perhaps it's time to move on.
A satisfying sex life (with one's significant other) is one of the keys to a happy relationship.
2007-03-08 05:49:08 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I hav had this problem even though its the other way around..When my husband wasn't wanting it that much, guys started to talk to me and for onc eI would talk back, not knowing if it was because I felt "unwanted" or just because. But it does make you wonder sometimes if there is more out there..I would never cheat , so I just bought me some toys.
2007-03-08 05:51:29 · answer #7 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear John (sorry couldnt resist)
I am a female and its very possible you wont like my answer but Im pretty sure it can help you.
Do you remember the sweet romantic things you did to get your wife to marry you? When is the last time you made her feel like the girl that found it impossible to resist your charms?
Women are run by their emotions. Men are physical. If you meet her needs, chances are she will feel like a loving woman and meet yours.
2007-03-08 05:50:34 · answer #8 · answered by My_Two_Centz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to try something _different_.
If you never help your wife out, or show her you appreciate her, try doing that.
If you help her out more then most husbands and trip all over yourself trying to please her, try pulling back and working on yourself and your own interests.
Sex is not something that you get as a reward when her life is perfect. Start living your own life. She can decide whether she wants to be a part of it or not.
2007-03-08 08:35:03 · answer #9 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why aren't you having sex anymore, that is the real question. maybe your wife is sad b/c she feels the romance is gone, try doing something special for her and try initiating sex in a different way then usual, maybe it will spice things up.
2007-03-08 05:48:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋