My 7 month old will just cry for no reason because she wants to be held or for everyone to pay attention to her. It is starting to drive me crazy. She will be perfectly happy playing or eating, and she will still just sit there and cry. I'm starting to think this is our own fault for overspoiling her. But now she won't sleep in her crib at night, she will just stay up and cry until she is in our bed or is being held. And she won't play in a room by herself, one of her sisters or someone else has to be with her. Is there any way to solve this?
2007-03-08 05:40:33 · 15 answers · asked by mommyem 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Just so everyone knows she is not being left alone in a room. She just thinks she is because she can't always see me when I can still see her.
2007-03-08 05:57:06 · update #1
First off, you CANNOT spoil a baby. They cry for attention because something is wrong, it could be something as simple as being scared.
And babies, should not be left ALONE to play. Someone should always be in a room with them; that's how accidents happen.
As for sleeping in her crib, make sure a dim light is on and when she cries, check on her, then tell her nite-nite, lay her down, pat her butt for a second and go back to bed. Repetition will work if you don't give in.
2007-03-08 05:48:57 · answer #1 · answered by martine_sf 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Remember crying hurts us more than it hurts her. Even if it gets on our nerves. At night dont pick her up to calm her. Keep her in there, you still comfort her, stroke her hair and skin and talk to her. Tell her you are leaving, night night time and leave. Each time let her cry for longer and longer. Repeating the same thing. She will go to sleep. She is not in pain dont worry. She will give in, it is a game to her and when you leave it makes her mad. That is okay as long as you are persistent you will win in the end.
As far as playing goes, play with her first, get her interested then leave. If she is doing fine come back and sit give her a different toy. Say hi make a funny face as you leave. Do this through out the day. She sees even though you are busy you are still stopping to say hi, She wont feel alone. If she cries, oh well. Give her a differnt toy, change her environment and leave. it is the same principal as the sleeping routine. If you are persistent and do give in all the time you will prevail the winner at the end. Hope this helps. Good luck and Good health to you and yours.
2007-03-08 05:54:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, don't be so hard on yourself about this because your just trying to be a good mom to your baby and doing what any other mom would do. I know it's hard to let a baby just cry.
Though it's not to late to start letting her just cry herself to sleep. If she has a clean dipper and something to eat then just try to let her cry herself to sleep.
And during the day try putting her in a playpen with toys that talk or make sounds because it might keep her entertained.
2007-03-08 06:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by JG78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, make sure you are giving her enough attention! if she's crying for attention, give it to her! however.. she needs to learn that when it's time to go to bed, it's time to go to bed.. don't give her attention when it's bed time.. definitely make sure she's had enough to eat and that she's changed and everything, but then when it's bedtime, put her in bed and let her cry.. we are going through exactly the same thing with our 7 month old.. he's been doing that for many months now and he is just now finally starting to get the hint that bedtime means bedtime and we're not giving in to him.. good luck!
2007-03-08 05:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by Byakuya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try putting her in a baby swing when you think she's crying for attention. Babies usually like that. I know that won't help at bedtime, but maybe you can rock her to sleep then put her in her crib v-e-r-y slowly!
2007-03-08 05:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Shes a baby and needs attention but too much will make her SPOILED. Let her cry don't pick her up. Give her a toy, sit and play with her, but DON'T pick her up she will eventually stop crying. My daughter was the same way now shes 26 months and can entertain herself.
2007-03-08 05:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I had a similar problem with mine the doctor told me.. let her cry and go check on her every 10 mins ( give her the bottle,binky or what ever she needs).but dont pick her up! Eventually she will see shes not gonna get what she wants and all that crying has tired her out.She'll fall fast alseep ..It really worked for me! you just have to have patience. I hope that helps on the sleeping part anyway
2007-03-08 05:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by vaye 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You've been reinforcing this behavior, and now you have to stop....You have to IGNORE her cries for attention...when its unwarranted. Children figure out VERY early, that its Better to be Loved than punished, but better to be punished than ignored.
But at the same time a 7 month old should NEVER be allowed to play by themselves. Actually, unless its bedtime they should never be left alone.
2007-03-08 05:49:31 · answer #8 · answered by zebj25 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
there is no easy solution but i hope you have about two or three days to go with out sleep at night cuz that is the only way it will happen you need to make her realize she can scream cry and all of the above but it's not gonna work to get what she wants. and oh it's gonna be nerve racking too but it's the only way to show her your the boss not her.
2007-03-08 05:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by tammed12000 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, it can be 'solved' with time. She is just going through a stage right now. Even if her sisters did not go through one. Every child is different. Ignore it a little and she will soon learn that she will not get her way each time -- especially the bed! She needs to learn NOW that the crib is her bed. She might need to cry to get that point through to her.
2007-03-08 05:47:14 · answer #10 · answered by GP 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋