It takes awhile before my partner and i can have anything going on...and for sometime, it will happen because of my persistence.I want to do it alot! but my partner seems uninterested. Can this be a basis that my partner does not find me attractive anymore?
2007-03-08 05:31:47 · 16 answers · asked by samantha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, your partner no longer finds you attractive or desirable
if he is not interested in sex with you...
2007-03-08 05:35:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Possibly.
Your partner could also be depressed.
But equally it could b a shared problem. In my other answer to you I mentioned hgging and kissing and dating.
How do you treat your partner outside of the bedroom. Are you loving and kind, attentive and supporting? Do you go on dates? Do you sometimes make sure you look nice for him? Do you have fun together? Sex doesn't beging in the bedroom it begins with a cheery 'I love you' when you leave for work in the morning, a friendly phone call in the day, a text to say how wonderful you think he is, a nice meal, talking together (switch off that TV!), playing a game together, hugs and cuddles and smiles. Then your partner might feel more like making love with you.
Think about whether you are supporting or polluting your relationship. You are concentrating on what you get out of it but what are you bringing to it? What have you done for your partner today? Try making sure that you do something nice for your partner every day without looking for reward - you are not doing this to get something back you are simply supporting your relationship. Try looking at your relationship as something that is a separate enity to you and your partner, something precious to you, then you might be more willing to do something positive for it every day.
Good luck
2007-03-08 05:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean uninterested? Does he do it and doesn't seem to like it or doesn't want to do it full stop? Im female and to be quite honest with you 9 times out of 10 id rather have a cup of coffee, but my boyfriend wants to do it all the time. I sometimes are too tired or basically can't be bothered but i love him very much. HAve you spoke to him? Ask him what up and does he have a problems 'sleeping' with you. If he says no and just says he's tired don't mither him about it and ask him all the time what's up leave it a few weeks then ask him again. Hope this helps
2007-03-08 06:49:46 · answer #3 · answered by fairylandk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical intimacy should never be associated with love. physical intimacy is an act. Just like talking over coffee. Love is a feeling of exuberation and exhilaration for the other person. Love can't be misconstrued or measured by a sex life.
Persistence is also a form of nagging, relax and just try to set the mood and let it progress from there. I'll bet their appetite for Making love will re appear.
2007-03-08 06:08:51 · answer #4 · answered by Randy W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am i right in thinking you mean it takes a while to have anything going on meaning you guys have a long time between making love?
Me and My partner dont do it for like 3-4 weeks at a time - we let the chemistry build up and when it does we have a mind blowing time!! :D
plus we have a 2 yr old, that dont help lol!! and he sleeps in our bed! so we are always on the floor!!
Tell your partner about your insecurities! :)
2007-03-08 05:39:19 · answer #5 · answered by Jemmax 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i still am in the believe that love concers.
But people do tend to play situations as the percive them
Maybe the situation has taken on a different meaning with your partner than you think.
Try and make sure that you are on the same page;that can be a great time saver.
2007-03-08 05:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by Doggie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There can be many reasons he is no longer intersted. He could be over stressed or distracted by something that is going on at work. He could be having trouble with his ability to get and maintain an erection. Yes he could no longer find you physically arousing. or the worst case, he could be having an affair.
2007-03-08 05:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really - most men and women have totally different sex drives. However, sex is not everything in a relationship, only a small part and an even smaller part as you get older, so love each other for reasons other than sex too.
2007-03-08 05:37:46 · answer #8 · answered by freddy the newf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a lot of things. Your partner could be really stressed out with work or something, he could be worried about something, or he could be physically unattracted to you.
Talk to them about it and tell them that you feel as if they dont want you anymore. Be honest with them and talk about your feelings. Maybe he will explain better whats going on.
2007-03-08 05:35:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lack of sexual desire can mean the person isn't into their partner, but it can also be due to physical issues, stress, emotional issues, etc.
Why don't you discuss it with him and go from there? And work on your own self esteem in the process. âº
2007-03-08 05:36:39 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexuality is a very complex thing. Men mostly like to be the aggressor. I would you try to temp him into making the first move. Men are normally so easy!
2007-03-08 05:40:59 · answer #11 · answered by Dust in the wind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋