i mean u love her but the fact is that u been together for too long and u might wonder if she is the right one. hope u get what i mean esp. for the singles to know that she is the right one for me. cheers.
2007-03-08 05:11:59 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I don't have a wife but I do have a husband that sometimes I get bored with and get annoyed with and sometimes can't stand. But I know that I couldn't live without him- life would be unfullfilling. He's my best friend and my lover.
2007-03-08 05:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by Your Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are married and have been for quite awhile and just "now" asking if she is the right one,......then you are a day late and a dollar short. Obvioulsy at some point she was the "Right One".
Too many people get caught up in and conditioned to things as usual and see it as mundane and the marriage has slipped into mediocrity.
Some creative efforts and acts can really revitalize a marriage with trying new social interactions and areas. Some day trips or weekend get-a-ways, and other such things that will help stimulate and rejuvinate the marriage.
Even separate vacations and activities can be healthy. It helps to trigger the "I miss my wife/husband" state of mind,.......or it may be a good message to realize that getting away from each other in a separate but healthy way in activities may add some color and contrats to the marriage.
Once we create some more dimensions in our marriage, we can look at our spouse in a whole new light. We can come to realize that variety is the spice of life and when we can add more to how we view our mates, they can quickly become "The One" once again.
Gotta shake up the marriage to keep it alive and enjoyable.
2007-03-08 13:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by The Sylvan Wizard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask a dangerous question. I am married. Am I really going to write that "I am tired of my wife." Think not. She reads what I write. She is the most beautiful and loving people in the world!!!
The reason you ask this question is that we are bombarded with sooooo much information that we really shouldn't have seen in the first place. Back in the 1960's we didn't have Oprah, or all these Court shows or stuff that we watch that tells us that life is soooo screwed up. Now we have become confused about the "perfect" mate. No wonder we are not satisfied.
As the song says, "Love the one you're with" and "Make the most of all". Work as a team and help one another. No one is perfect for you. But someone can be there for you when you need them!
H2O
2007-03-08 13:21:22 · answer #3 · answered by }-{2(o) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 23 years and I think my husband has thought once or twice about exchanging me for a newer model. I'm often tired and get depressed easily. Nevertheless, he has stuck it out. He is a person who gives me a hug from behind, rubbing my back, giving me little kisses and so on, even though I don't always deserve that. We've been through so much together and I am there for him as well, that the boring times are turned into reading a book next to each other and talking about it. Going to the movies or to dinner. Saying loving things out of the blue. Doing the best we can in serving the other which in turn will bless us.
2007-03-08 13:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by VW 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, The novelty wears off after a while and the conversations start to become more and more plain but Just remember that new relationships will end up the same way eventually. Keep in mind that there are many contributing factors to a happy marriage but just getting stagnant is normal. You need to try and spice it up a bit by being spontaneous. And it wouldn’t hurt to try and make her feel sexy. I mean really lay it on thick. I think the fundamental question is what about your wife make you think she's not the right one?
2007-03-08 13:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by Andre Murrell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love someone you never get tired or bored with them if you put the effort into making your marriage work. Many couples just continue to do the same old things over and over again instead of making every week a challenge. Remember the days of dating when you tried to be spontaneous and surprise each other once in a while? Remember when you did little romantic things like helping her put her coat on, holding her hand, or brushing the hair away from her face and tell her your couldn't see her beautiful eyes? You need to carry the magic of dating into your married life to keep that spark alive. If you don't keep adding wood to the fire it will eventually die out!!!!!
2007-03-08 13:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know the same could be the same as the woman and she maybe tired of her husband and us women are not stupid when you say you know what i mean, For one thing I am not tired of my husband nor is my husband tired of me my husband never knws what to expect next of me because i have a personality and i am very witty, its called the element of surprise, My husband would not want another woman because if he did then we would not be together we have been married for almost 2 years now and we have had our ups and downs but whatever comes our way we overcome it because we are destined to be together this is why we are married we love each other to know ends and would do whatever it takes to always be happy so i hope i have answered your question.. If your married you shouldn't even be thinking about cheating you took a Vow
2007-03-08 13:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all married couples go through this stage at one point or another. My wife and I almost separated a couple of years ago, but we stuck it out, and I am happier now than I have been in years. One biological reason I have heard for this is that a human child is physically able to care for itself after about 7 years, so men are biologically ready to move on after this point. However, socially and amotionally, this is not always the best decision. I would say you should try to communicate your concerns to your wife if possible, and see how she feels.
2007-03-08 13:15:59 · answer #8 · answered by ryancw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take a vacation away from each other...if you have a job perhaps you should find a "reason" to take a "business" trip.
My husband and i, before we got married we spent 3 years together in which we spent almost all of that 24/7...he joined the USNAVY and is away from me now and will be about 98% of the time. We are so much happier now and both agree it has done wonders for our relationship. Oh and we got married AFTER he left. ; )
It is important that couples spend time apart. I suggest you discuss the importance of this with her.
What you are feeling is normal and perfectly fine.
2007-03-08 13:16:40 · answer #9 · answered by LM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to worry, Honesty is a good thing. I've been married to the same lady for 39 years, and yes, I think there are times when we get on each other's nerves. Bottom line, though, is that THE MORE I DO FOR HER THE MORE I LOVE HER! There is no doubt that I love her FAR more now than when we were married. Love is something you GROW, not something you fall into. Chow
2007-03-08 13:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by Dust in the wind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋