Hi, everyone. I just found out I'm 5 weeks pregnant with my first child. I'm really excited, however, a friend told me something that scared me. She said that her doctor said that first pregnancies are much more likely to miscarry. She went on to say that first pregnancies are usually just to get the uterus prepared for the "real pregnancy" (her words, NOT mine). Has anyone else heard this from a medical professional? I know every pregnancy has a risk of miscarriage, but I've never heard that the first is any more likely than any subsequent pregnancy. I'm hurt that she would suggest that the baby I'm carrying is nothing more than a "trial" baby to get my body prepared for the "real" one. What do you all think about this?
2007-03-08 05:01:21 · 16 answers · asked by kellyv04 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Thanks so much for all the kind and informative responses. I don't know who has been dishing out the thumbs-downs--all of you (so far) have given me great answers. I wanted the truth about this stuff, but it's also nice to hear a "congratulations" instead of "you'll probably have a miscarriage" like the "friend" I told you about!
2007-03-08 05:44:00 · update #1
Even if this is true, it doesn't mean that your pregnancy is going to end in a miscarriage. Maybe the likelihood is statistically slightly higher, but that might be due to many reasons such people not adopting the necessary lifestyle changes.
Having a positive attitude is important, I think. This is my first pregnancy and I am 33 weeks and am having a very good pregnancy. The chances of you not miscarrying are much greater than the chances of you miscarrying, so relax and enjoy your pregnancy!
2007-03-08 05:19:34 · answer #1 · answered by Ricecakes 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Oh dear, I'm sorry you've been told that.
I had 3 successful pregnancies but then suffered a miscarriage 5 weeks into my fourth pregnancy in 2002. I had a baby in Feb 2006 and everything went OK.
Most of my friends have suffered miscarriages, but on 2nd, 3rd, 4th pregnancies. Never a first.
Try not to worry.
S. XX
2007-03-08 05:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by Welshdragon 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Look this baby is real it is not a trial. I am not sure why your friend said this but she is wrong. I have known plenty of people that had a healthy baby the first time and then miscarry the next and vice-versa. Anybody can have a misscarriage with any pregnancy. Nobody is ever prepared for this if it happens. I always think of anything as a 50/50 just in case. I am sure you will have a beautiful, happy, healthy baby. Oh and it is not good to worry while you are pregnant it is bad for you and the baby. So cheer up, take people's advice but also do some research on it to see if it is true before you get so worried. Good Luck with the baby.
2007-03-08 05:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by lolly 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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Hi, everyone. I just found out I'm 5 weeks pregnant with my first child. I'm really excited, however, a friend told me something that scared me. She said that her doctor said that first pregnancies are much more likely to miscarry. She went on to say that first pregnancies are usually...
2015-08-06 17:11:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am the product of a first time pregnancy and im fine, my mother has had 4 children including me and not one miscarriage.
my friend just recently had a miscarriage but was told that it was nothing to do with her. the only thing she was told was that she had a 1 in 4 chance of having another one, no mention of that it was to prepare her for the next pregnancy.
hope all goes well, good luckxxxxxx
2007-03-08 07:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by unichick_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's true that first time pregnancies end in miscarriage more often, and most of the time the woman is not even aware she was pregnant because they happen so early on ("chemical pregnancies"). But many, many, many recognized pregnancies go on to healthy full term babies!
Regardless of the statistics, your "friend" was really rude to even bring that up. Pregnancy, especially early pregnancy, is stressful enough without so-called friends bringing in nasty statistics to scare you.
I wish you all the best with your pregnancy! It's a fun, exciting time.
2007-03-08 05:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by jokiebird 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That sounds ridiculous. My pregnancy with my son was perfect. I have never miscarried. Most of the time when a woman miscarries it could be because something is lacking in her body which is making it had for her to carry a child. A friend of mine had 4 miscarriages but she just recently just gae birth to a baby because her doctors finally realized that she was lacking something and they had to give her an injection...I'm not sure wat it was but it worked! Why would a doctor say that? That doesn't make any kind of sense. If hat is true the why do a lot of women have a child and then when tey try for number 2 they miscarry? That happens a lot. I knowquite afew woman tha that has happened too. Don't listen to your friend or her doctor. You'll worry yourself to death..which is bad for your baby.
2007-03-08 05:09:53 · answer #7 · answered by Angela 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It's got nothing to do with first pregnancy's it's just one of those things , something that goes wrong at the start. My sister's been pregnant 3 times and lost all three, she's decided to give up cos it's heartbreaking. I've had 4 babies, and it was hard for her to see, especially my last daughter, cos she'd just lost the third. don't listen to scaremongers, i'm surprised she's still your friend.
2007-03-08 05:08:08 · answer #8 · answered by Jeanette 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi, Your friend is kind of right. you are much more likely to miscarry your 1st. Although as im sure many women on here will tell you their where fine. Im not sure why the reason for this is , but it has been proven. Most women then go on to have healthy babies. this is not to say miscarriage does not happen in later pregnancys, and some women never miscarry. I miscarried my first and was told this by my doctor. Of course i could off been told that so i dont loose hope and not try again. Miscarriage most commenly happens in first 12 weeks then gets less commen as the weeks go by. But thats just some of the facts as you asked. Many women dont miscarry at all so please please dont worry and enjoy every secound of this time. Their is every chance you will be fine. Congratulations.
2007-03-08 08:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by Littleblonde-kacey is here 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Misscarriages happen often to first time mothers. It is a common known fact to many. Even years ago this was the case. I research histology some and many pilgrim women had first and some second time misscarriages or still borns. Back then they didn't do DNV.
Today it is not as common with all the supplements and the health immunities we have today and the lack of seriousness associated with colds anymore like in earlier days.
If you are five weeks you are already a good ways to getting out of the danger zone. That time frame of most misscarriages is 3 months after consumation. The first few weeks are the most important.
2007-03-08 05:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋