There's this guy in my class whom I thought was my best friend. Six months ago I found out he hs been in love with me for two years till now. He said nothing, not even while I was dating one of his best friends. I thought he liked me as a friend..only. Now I've been dating another guy for a year. I really like my boyfriend. My friend is jealous of him. Some day he found out I know about hi feelings and since then he's not the same. He's been avoiding me. I don't know what to do. I love him and I thought I loved him as a brother. But I want to hug him and be with him all day long. Suddenly my favourite songs refer to him. Do you think I've feelings for him? And wat do I do next? I don't want us to become strangers.
2007-03-08 04:54:28 · 14 answers · asked by Still breathing 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
A very difficult and common problem.
I would say that if you were going out with other guys while being just friends with him, then you are really not interested in him as other than a friend.
He acted strange once he knew you found out how he felt because I suppose he feels you are not reciprocating and there is no chance for a relationship. It's embarrassing, among other things.
Search your feelings. There must have been some reason you never considered him as a boyfriend. You may be thinking of him now because you don't want to lose the friendship, but you two may well have reached the point of no return. It may be that you two either become more than friends, or lose contact - it may be extremely difficult to stay just friends.
My guess, from being through this, is that there is a chance that you will want to take your friendship with him to the next level - a relationship. But more likely, I would say that if you want a friendship and he wants more, then it's time to part ways entirely. This is not what you want to hear - it will hurt you both. But it's not fair to him if he has these feelings which are never returned.
I can't fault you for not returning his feelings. You have to be honest with yourself, and him. But expecting friendship from him when he is/was in love with you is prolonging his torture.
I could be wrong - I don't know you. But good luck.
2007-03-08 04:56:57 · answer #1 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that way about him then I say go for it. I mean he practically knows you better than anybody anyway so why not be with someone like that. He seems like he cares alot about you and fell the same way towards you that you do him. The only problem is that since you found out how he feels and you have a boyfriend he feels the need to avoid you. If you tell him exactly what you posted then I'm sure that ya'll can make official. I'm sure that ya'll will make a great and happy couple. Let me know on the results. Remember if you pass up something like this you're going to regret it for the rest of your life that you did.
2007-03-08 13:59:31 · answer #2 · answered by vanessa k 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Better talk to him before you do become strangers. I had a best friend that I let go way too soon. Dont think that these love feelings could be nothing. If you have butterflies in your stomach when you see him or get all excited when you get together for a movie or club and get all dressed up just for him ummm that may mean you feel the same as he does. Talk to him before its too late. Good luck
2007-03-08 13:00:46 · answer #3 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you know that he likes you. Say that you don't want things to get awkward. And if you do like him as more than a friend. Don't be his girlfriend just yet, go out to the movies together once in a while. Do something fun. Then, when you find out if you are perfect for each other make a move. Keep it simple though.
2007-03-08 13:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by nobody's kid 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i didnt really understand...do u love ur best friend? if that then thats easy just go to him and tell him that u know about his feelings and that u feel the same but u never thought about it now after u gave it a thought u found out that u r in love with him its easier that what u think maybe he is just feeling embarrassed that he cant tell u i love u
2007-03-08 13:09:28 · answer #5 · answered by dimaabdin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've got the same problem. i think as girls we want to think that guys and girls can be best friends, but like that one guy said, guys don't just be your friend to be your friend. so i've had to just let my guy go and do what he wants b/c i let him know that i liked him a lot but can't be his girlfriend, and that was all i could do, what happens next is his move. either this guy will like being around you enough to stay your friend, or he'll go his own way. i hope it works out
2007-03-08 13:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by miss_missippi 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a moron! No guy is just best friends with a girl, unless he is in love with them! I know, I married my best friend! You females need to get a clue or give up the right to vote!
2007-03-08 12:57:11 · answer #7 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately if you are fall in love with a person you can not looking at him/her as a friend only, and of course your hart is breaking when you see that the other person changes parteners while you are waiting 4 him/her. it is hard for him to be just a friend....
you must dicide what is the relationship you need....
2007-03-08 13:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I bet he is singing "Girlfriend" to himself exept as a guy.
but you cant just throw your own bf away like that, this is so Popular. (the show) When Sam and Brooke compete for Harission.
2007-03-08 12:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by dancerboytd 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
they say that best friends make the best lovers. And if you are missing him that much, I would say you should dump the other guys and be with the one you love.
2007-03-08 12:58:24 · answer #10 · answered by Shelly t 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋