Is my friend fake or what??Should i still even talk to her??

Question

okay me and this girl has been friends since freshman year and im a sophmore now and we'd grown to be really good friends.So after a while she became friends with a girl who i happen to hate (my boyfriends ex girlfriend) so before they even got as close as they are now, she told me over and over "its not like im going to let her talk about u" so i was like ok then u can be her friend because i believed her.So for the past couple of weeks they've gotten really close and she even put that ***** before me on her top on Myspace.I know that your thinking that its just Myspace but I take peoples tops very seriously.Anyways, then she startes to act funny and not talk to me everytime i saw her with that girl.It even got to the point where she didnt say nothing to me when she was alone.So I was like so upset with her that i would tell everyone that she was a backstabber and how she hurt my feelings and how she betrayed me....so now we dont even talk like that...WHAT SHOULD I DO GUYS????????????

Answer 1

Personally I understand what your going through, I mean I may not been in that situation but I've been in one where I called my friend a backstabber as well. You have to understand that people change when they become friends with other people because those group of people turn you against each other. I know that you said she doesn't even talk to you when she's alone but she don't have to all she has to do is listen. I think that you shoud tell her exactly how you feel about how she is treating you, I'll bet she only became that way because your boyffriend's ex turned against you cause ya'll don't get alone. I wouldn't tell you to give up on her until you explain your feelings about the matter, after that it's on her to make a move. If she don't then find you another best friend that won't betray you like she did.

Answer 2

Well going around calling your friend a backstabber is not going to help get your friendship back, if anything it is just going to put more static into the air. You need to decide if you want to be friends with her anymore, and if you decide that you do still want to be good friends you need to talk to her about what is going on, like why won't you talk to me when she around, ask her why your not on her friends list anymore. Then if her answers are to your satisfactory, plan something for the two of you to do. You can even call her one Friday and go out to lunch, and ask these questions. Another thing is if she was really your "friend" when you talk to her she should understand these things, let her know what is going on, and don't be bossy or mean about it, if you are mean about it she is just going to be mean back to you. You have to also understand that having a good friend is just like having a boyfriend, sometimes it works out and other times it don't. Sometimes it is better to just cry about it, eat your chocolate ice cream in bed while watching a sad movie, and move on. There are going to be tons of people that come in and out of your life you might as well get use to it now.

Answer 3

well it seems that your so-called friend might be a traitor. i have been in the same situation before when she (your so-called friend) starts acting funny that means that she is talking behind your back most likely and literally hating on you! girl you don't need her as company if she's throwing shade on you. i recommend not stooping to her level ... just breathe and let it go. whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger okay. anyway look on the brigther side you can always meet new people. but remember if she comes around acting phony then put this into perspective..keep your friends close and your enemies closer. now that she has shown you her true colors. look ahead and realize that she was never meant to be your true friend in the first place. keep it moving let that fire burn out. take care and make new friends!!

Answer 4

high school dramas...oh boy! well, i could say just move on, get over it, she's not worth your friendship. But, you could ask what you did wrong to make her stop talking to you. Ask, did this other girl say something bad about you, that made her not want to talk to you and be your friend. Don't be so quick to jump down her throat and call her a back strabber. Really try to get a real reason from her and listen when she tells you. keep asking her if she doesn't tell. Don't yell or be nasty, just be calm and ask. Ask like you really wanna know the truth and you won't get mad, you just wanna know why. You gotta remember, you're in high, you can always make new friends. some people are immature and don't know how to handle these kinds of situations well, and don't always know the best wat to go about it. So, they don't talk to you or ignore you. Just try to get her to communicate her feelings to you.

Answer 5

just ignore her for now. honestly, im out of high school now and i can honestly tell you that making drama and being bitchy isnt the way to go. i regret some stuff i did back then, because you end up loosing more friends than gaining. if you don't think she's a good friend anymore, then just let go and naturally talk to her less. don't make it a big huge fight where all your friends have to take sides..ect. it just makes life harder, makes you more and more pissed off. i can tell you that i barely talk to any highschool friends anymore (im in college) because i was a super drama queen back then! LOL, honestly, be mature and if she wants to talk to you, talk back. if not, don't make it a big deal and try hard to talk to her. she's obviously not being a good friend right now, but don't burn bridges because maybe in another few months you will be friends again. if you call her a backstabber, she will be your enemy and will never be your friend again. its better to have more friends than enemies =)

Answer 6

I say move on. Leave her behind. Friends will sadly come and go throughout your life. If you find a friend who is there always for you for years consider yourself lucky. People are tricky. Everyone does things to better themselves they really dont take into consideration anyone else. Forget about her and make new friends. Just enjoy yourself in highschool and keep in mind that you are who is important and if someone does something to you that you do not like you should politly tell them and make the choice to stick around or move on. Good luck.

Answer 7

drop it and move on- dont talk behind each others back- or at least -you can stop. so many times people get caught up in the drama when its really not worth the trouble. yeah she was your friend and ditched you-it had to hurt but talking about her will just get back to her eventually and the situation will escalate- do you really want this to turn into a physical fight-also arguing with her and spending so much thought on her-is alot more consideration than she gave you-just start treating her like you'd never met-because obviously-she's not the person you thought she was. good luck doll

Answer 8

well first of all im sorry about the situation, but im sure that you can find a true friend who would not so something to u like that and besided i dont think u would want a friend who would do that to you, im not saying u shouldnt forgive her if she asks just make sure u dont tell her really personal things becuase she betrayed u once what makes u think she would do it again. so basically go out find new friends but always remember not to tell people something u wouldnt want others to find out cuz these days u cant trust no one even if u think they are ur best friend! good luck and i hope everything resolves quickly! k

Answer 9

It's really hard when friends betray you, I just went through something like that myself, she went after my brother behind my back, but friends come and go and if you are having to work that hard and it takes a lot out of you then it's not worth it to you to keep trying to stay friends, and she doesn't sound like she deserves your friendship anyway. She basically let you know that she doesn't value your friendship as much as you do. But a friendship should be a partnership with both sides putting something into it and if your the only one holding it up, it's going to fall down eventually anyway, but I hope it works out for you!

Answer 10

sounds to me like you lost your friend. Her not talking to you may have just been your perception. You should have talked to her before you called her a backstabber. Now its all out and would be difficult to repair the damaged friendship. Maybe you could consider putting your hate aside.