Wondering if the man I'm dating is the type to get married?

Question

I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months... i love him and he loves me and all of that good stuff. Im not saying that i want to get married anytime soon.... but he was with his ex for 6 years and i am hoping it doesnt take that long for him to date me to ask me to marry him. He tells me he wants to be with me forever and has mentioned marrage before... asking me if i were to marry, whouldnt i want to end up with him? If we do end up together, how long is appropriat to pop the question?

Answer 1

My wife and I dated for three years, before choosing to get engaged, then I popped the question to her. For some, three years may be too long to wait, especially depending of one's age. For us it worked out just fine, because it provided us ample time to really get to know each other, before making such an important decision. After being married for 9 years {for we wanted to enjoy our life alone together first), we decided to have children. We have two now, a boy - we is now 9, and a girl - who is now 5. We decided to stop at 2 {No Cheaper by the Dozen for us). Great loving kids, but they have their days.
*Hopefully they'll never refer to me, as being their "Old man".

Thanks for you excellent question.

Have a great week/& coming weekend.

Answer 2

My second wife and I came up with this when we started talking about marriage and we shared 16 wonderful years before she died. I hope it works for you as well. Ask each other these questions and be honest about answering.

I love children and make them a priority in my life do you feel the same? When do you think we should have children?

I do not want to ever move away from family but will discuss this if it is absolutely necessary would you?

If I decide to go back to school would you support my decision if it meant that I couldn't work while doing so?

If I suddenly became disabled and/or disfigured could I depend on you to remain faithful and take care of me(even if it meant I could no longer be intimate with you)?

I believe in sharing all responsibilities in a marriage(housework, yardwork, cooking, shopping, child care, etc.) do you?

One person (either man or wife) should take care of managing the financial affairs with full input and disclosure of the assests and balances monthly do you agree? (This means that either the husband or wife handles withdrawing money for the other's use - it's not a matter of control. Remember you don't have everyone in a company writing checks on the company bank account)

I will never go to bed mad without saying "I Love You".(It's okay to be mad at each other once in awhile - just remember nobody's perfect)

I will not enter into a marriage with you unless all doubts, concerns, and disagreements with you on what we both expect are completely resolved do you agree?

** Finally **

I promise to discuss and compromise when we do have problems to make sure I am the complete husband/wife that makes your world complete. I Love You.
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If you are honest in your answers to the above items you will find a lifetime of happiness. I know we did.
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There is no appropriate time that you wait to ask someone to marry you. It should be when both are sure that they are ready if they want it to be a lifetime commitment. Good Luck.

Answer 3

5 years is about right.

Come on, we both know you want him to pop the question right away...if not sooner. This is way too soon for both of you, he needs to dump you now. Go out and find a woman who isn't chomping at the bit to get married.

Answer 4

2 yrs - if you can't make up your mind by this time -it probably won't happen