I may be pregnant and I'm still living with at home with mom! I'm in college, what should I do?

Question

My mom will be devastated with me if she found out I was pregnant. I don't know for sure if I am yet, but I don't remember getting a period in February, and here it is March and still no period. I am in community college and I was planning on transfering to a university, but how can I do that with a baby on the way? How should I break it to my mom if I am? I am looking for a full-time job so she won't have to help me as much, but even I am devastated! What should I do? HELP!

Answer 1

First, wait until you know for sure.

Then, assuming you are, you should tell your mom. Be honest with her and let her make her own decisions about how she wants to respond. This can be anything from support to throwing you out. Hopefully, it's closer to support than the later.

That will tell you what options you have for your own future.

I notice you don't mention your boyfriend. You and he need to discuss how to handle the future. For example, how he'll support you and the baby, at least until you can work.

I don't mean this as a lecture, but you did make a decision to have sex. In doing so, you and your BF made the decision (whether you think you did or not) to deal with a pregnancy.

You need to take responsibility for that. Unless you make the call to give the baby away or to abort, you and your BF are soon to be thrust into being full-fledged adults that need to make decisions, not based on your own wants and needs, but on the needs of a baby.

I think you'll find that switching to a university is out, unless you BF is able to fully support the two of you, in addition to paying tuition (if Mom won't pay). Getting work, saving some money, may be your priority now.

Answer 2

I'm in the same situation. First, calm down and get a pregnancy test. If you are pregnant, tell your mom once you have made a decision about what you're going to do because she'll really be on your back if you decide to keep the baby and you're don't look "stable" enough to her. You can still transfer to university, but make sure you are on a serious job hunt in that school's area because prenatal care alone is kind of expensive...especially if you don't have insurance.

My mom had an attitude with me for a few weeks after I (well my boyfriend) told her I was pregnant. At the time I was about 9 weeks and had no idea until I went to the doctor for a checkup. Everyone's parents react differently and hopefully your mother will support you know matter what choice you make.

good luck ^.^

Answer 3

If your relationship with your Mom is good you should definitely tell her . You don't need to stress over this alone. You need someone in your corner and Mom is the best thing for you although she may be disappointed she will come around or she could totally support you. Just don't let anyone tell you you can't do this or that you should get rid of your baby your life is your own and that isn't a fetus inside of you it's a human life in your hands. Tell your Mom and find out for sure maybe having a hand to hold would make things easier for you when you find out if you are or aren't pregnant.
Don't overstress just because you have a baby it's not the end of the world. It's only the beginning. You can do this! Everything happens for a reason. Don't let this devastate you it's a blessing maybe in disguise but still a blessing.
Good Luck :)

Answer 4

First of all, take a pregnancy test before you start to freak out. Stress can prolong your period. If you are pregnant then it's up to you to decide if you want to keep it or not. If you keep it, you have to sit your mom down and just tell her. She may be angry at first but as time passes she'll most likely become excited. As far as school goes, finish it!! You will need your education to support yourself and your child throughout the years. It will be tough but worth it in the end. I believe financial aid will help you oodles if you're a single parent. For a job you can search for an office job, a job at a hotel, at a restaurant (not a chain restaurant, they make you split your tips with the other workers), or seach the job websites such as monster.com. Those seem to be the highest paying jobs for people without degrees that may need some flexible hours. You will be quite the busy bee but school won't last forever and I'm sure you'll have help from all around. Best of luck to you. I wish you all the best.

Answer 5

Don't hide anything from your mom. Your mom may be devistated at first. But the idea of a baby could be exciting for you and your mom. She could probably help you out more than you think she can. You can still go to school while your pregnant. Putting a baby in daycare while they are infants is hard. Sure, you would have to take time off of school after the baby is born. But pick right back up 6 weeks later. I had the same thing happen to me when I was 18. But it worked out for the best. See your doctor to find out if you really are. Home pregnancy tests can lie. I once had half of the 8 I took come out pos. and the other half neg. The best thing to do is find out if you are, and go from there.

Answer 6

First, you should probably find out whether or not you are pregnant. Go get a test - odds are if your period was missed in February, then enough time has gone by for you to do a test and have an accurate answer. Then, if you do happen to find you are pregnant, speak to a counselor at your school and discuss what kind of options you have if you wish to carry the baby. A lot of schools are flexible with scheduling and classes now due to a lot of moms returning to school, but in addition to that they can also help you find a way to make it easier for yourself to break the news to your mom. (Because there is no easy way to say "I'm pregnant.") Good luck!

Answer 7

First I would take a test, you may be worried about nothing.

But if you are don't worry. I know the exact feeling, I just got back from basic training, was living at home with my mom, starting college the next semester and working full-time. The worst part of it was that she HATED my boyfriend with a passion. When she found out she wasn't thrilled but what could she do? It wasn't her choice. After a few weeks she was so excited, in fact she came to the ultrasound with me to find out that my lil baby was a boy. I decided that it would be better for me and the baby if I were to move out into an apartment. She was soo sad because she said I would be so far away, (the apartment was less than a mile away.) Point being, she may not be thrilled at first, but it really grows on people and soon enough she'll be trying to decorate the baby's room, telling you what to name them. :) it'll be fine.

Answer 8

Yeah, just tell your mom. She'll be ticked at first..dissappointed etc. but it will go away as she becomes excited about a new grandbaby. As far as college....keep going!!!! Work a full-time job, figure out child care while you are in work and take a couple of classes at night and arrange for babysitting (I'm sure mom would help out if you are still trying to make something of yourself) I work full-time, have 2-step children and a baby on the way AND I'm in college....so it's doable.

Don't sweat it....find out first if you are and if so....take it a day at a time and don't halt your life or sell yourself short, the baby will only add joy and you can still accomplish your dreams and career goals. Good luck.

Answer 9

It was very hard for me to break it to my mother that i was pregnant because just like you i was living at home with my mother. my mom actually figured it out from me not getting my peroid. And Ill tell you just like she told me, you have to make sure that YOU want this baby, not because you are trying to keep a man or because you dont beleive in abortion or whatver the case may be. YOU have to be ready mentally and finacially so that if one day your boyfriend or whoever decides to leave, you can do it on your own. That you wont hold anything against your child because you are mad at the world. You still have time to think ( up to 4 months). Your mom may not even be mad at all just a little shocked because like very parent they dont want to see you depressed or struggling but she will get over it and be if you decide to keep it, she will be your best hope for help and support. Just give her the benifit of the doubt.

Answer 10

Well i was in my second yr of college when i found out i was pregnant. i told my mom by starting ut with, i have some bad news (because i knew she would be VERY DISAPPOINTED)and then she was like what and i was like well im pregnant and she pressed for me to have an abortion but i didnt want to. that was 8 months ago, now shes bought a stroller and carseat,wants to be there for the birth, and wants me to come back home. i am still in school. it is possible to stillgo to school and have a baby if you have a strong support system. even then,you have to be very determined(cause its hard enough going to classes, let alone being 8 months pregnant). but i mean first, TAKE A TEST lol