endometriosis? Is it fair?

Question

i just found out i may have endometriosis. I am 22 and have 2 children 3 and 3 months. My husband and I do not want anymore children right now, but i always wanted 3 babies and wanted to get pregnant after i finished school and was stable in a real good job. If i had any chance of having a baby it would be soon but my hubby doesn't want to, i dont really want to now but I am petrified of not being able to have that option for the future. Its so scary and upsetting, im terrified of having a sugrery that would decide for me of wether or not i can have children, and i wish my husband would feel differently but i know where he is comming from. Any advice or ideas on what i should do?

Answer 1

You can get pregnant with endometriosis, it is just harder. My mom had my 2 older sisters, then she found out that she had endo and 4 years later, I came along (my brother 14 months after me).


Good Luck!

Answer 2

Endometriosis can only be diagnosed by surgery. It can also be effectively treated during the same surgery. With proper treatment (i.e., actual removal of the lesions and implants), symptoms including infertility can be greatly improved.

Most women with Endometriosis who want a child, are able to have a child (often, treatment and even sometimes IVF/ART protocols may be helpful interventions). Additionally, you already have 2 children, which indicates that infertility is not one of your top symptoms if in fact you do have Endo, which you won't know for sure until you are surgically diagnosed.

Secondly, surgical intervention does not "decide for you if you can children in the future" - it facilitates proper treatment to ensure that you can.

(PS, pregnancy is NOT a cure for Endometriosis, as has been suggested by those still living in the dark ages).

You are also very young - early intervention can only be of benefit to a woman with the disease.

I would strongly suggest checking out http://www.endocenter.org/pdf/2006ScreeningEducationKit.pdf for accurate, detailed information about the disease. There are many facts, treatment options and other information therein you'll want to read up on.

Also check out http://www.centerforendo.com, http://www.endometriosissurgeon.com, http://www.endoexcision.com, http://www.drcook.com and http://www.endocenter.org for more accurate information about Endometriosis. It's important to weed through the inaccuracies, old wive's tales, insufficient data and outdated concepts of the disease in order to obtain an effective, early diagnosis and treatment.

Good luck to you and remember that help is out there...you just need to look beyond what those who lack real information about the disease are telling you.

Answer 3

I was dx with endometriosis at age 18. I am 23 now and pregnant with my first child. I had the surgery at age18, which can actually increase your chances of becoming pregnant, but you have to conceive the child fairly quickly after surgery (so I have been told by my dr) I was treated with the 2 different shots, each for one year. I came off the last shot in Oct of 2005 and it took me 1 year to get pregnant. I was in the same situation, at age 18 the dr told me that if I want to have children I needed to do so by the time I was 23, after that it becomes harder to conceive. After I had the surgery, my endometriosis did not came back, even while having my period. Granted, I have been told by my dr that after I have this child there is a strong chance of the endometriosis coming back, but the way I see it is that I count my blessings I am able to have one. You never know for sure what the outcome may be after you are treated for endometriosis, it could be great! My advice, have the surgery. It does not need to go untreated. The chances of becoming pregnant again could decrease if left untreated.

Answer 4

what has your DR told you about your options?? i do know that endometriosis grows with each cycle you have. my sister in law has it too. her dr put her on a shot that puts her through a chemical menopause to keep her from ovulating and mentstrating. if she goes off the shot, she WILL have a cycle. she has has surgery 2 different times to remove the scar tissue of the endometeriosis. she has been unsuccessful in getting pregnant, but she has other complications BESIDES her endometriosis. BUT i do know at least 2 other friends of mine who has such a severe case of endometriosis they were told they would NEVER have children, but both of them now have 2! now might not be the time for another one, but do know that just because of your diagnosis, it doesn't mean you won;t be able to have any more in the future! but even if you may NOT have any more, take solace in the fact that you already have 2 beautiful miracles already! you may also consider adoption later, too....if you both choose.

just know that all is not bleak! you are not alone in your situation! i wish you both the best! good luck!

Answer 5

I've had endo for 14 years and I am only 27. I had my surgery in October of 2002. I was told I could never have children because I had it so bad. 3 months later I was pregnant and I now have a healthy 3 year old little boy. Endo is a leading cause of fertility but you can still get pregnant if you have it. It takes years and years (depending on how bad you have it) to cause infertility.
I was told by my dr. that having kids really help slow down endo and if you have a 3 month old, you have plenty of time to think about another one.

Answer 6

Now everyone can cure infertility using this natural remedy http://pregnancyhelps.info
infertility can run in the family and one of the first things the doctor asks you when you go to a fertility clinic is your family history regarding cases of infertility or other reproductive issues.
If infertility is caused by genetic disorder then it's not unusual that one of the kids (your mom) doesn't have it and another does (your aunt).
two months of trying is still to early to be concerned about the fact that you might be infertile and it's also quite early to go to a fertility specialist. Go to a regular Obgyb to get a closer insight and see what ways there are are to improve your fertility rate.
Also remove alcohol, caffeine and cigarettes from your life because they might influence your chances too. Stress is also a risk factor when it comes to infertility.

Answer 7

just to let you know it isn't as bad as you might be thinking right now.
my cousin and friend both have it really bad and was told that they can't have kids if they did they wouldn't carry full term-wrong they both did and had healthy babies, neither one of them had any problems. they were considered high risk and had ultra sounds every 2 weeks to check and monitor the baby.
however, my other cousin was told that she had it and opted for the surgery they opened her up and there was nothing at all.
as for surgury just wait it out you never know, dr always seem to jump into things-go by how you feel are you in terible pain.
if you want to have kids in the future this does not mean that you can't, every situationis different (don't rush something your both not ready for).
either way be happy that you so have two children hey after you graduate you may not want any more kids anyways you could focus on your two and career.

Answer 8

I had to get a hysto when I was 25. I do have 2 kids. I never wanted any more but it sucks to not have that choice. I know exactly how you feel. Remember there is always foster parenting or adopting.
Good luck and Im very sorry

Answer 9

Look girl, you already have 2 kids. Enough already. If you already have endometriosis, it means future fetuses will only attacked by your antibodies. Get it treated first before you start wanting another baby but for now - enough already and enjoy your two kids. Count your blessings that you even had 2.

Answer 10

Count your blessings that you have any children at all. My wife had endemetriosis, and several surgeries to try and make it so she could have kids, but we still ended up childless.

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