My fiance's estranged wife won't divorce him! She has a baby by his friend & his son! She calls him to argue & he hangs up on her. When he's about to face them he gets very angry with us I don't know why. Other than that he's excellent with us. She doesn't let their son call him or vice versa. She tells everyone she still loves him, & she's with his ex-friend. He says it doesn't bother him 'cause he's with me. He ignores her!! He tries to act civil & she talks down to him. Their son says he wants to live with us!
He's my main income source right now. He pays ALL of my bills!!! I'm unemployed & he lives with me in my apt. I think she's jealous 'cause he used to do that for her. I don't get involved but it's affecting my relationship with him. I'm not intimate with him anymore & he's trying to!
Can someone let me know am I wrong for staying with him or should I make him leave help me!!! Please
2007-03-08 04:37:06 · 6 answers · asked by Sweetness 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I said main source of income not only. I have a home based mini business! That's my source of income but he chose to pay my bills so I let him!!! Well he called Lawyers they said that he cannot "sue" for divorce because he left the home. He has a court order that she is violating. He gets his son every other weekend twice during the week for homework help!! I don't know how to tell him that the relationship has to end until he gets divorced & for him to actually listen!! I know married is married eventhough they haven't been together over three years! anymore advice he's very stuborn!!
Thank you!!!
2007-03-08 09:07:34 · update #1
There are ways to get divorced from a person even if the other person fights it and doesn't want it. Tell him to call a lawyer and get some advice AND a set visitation schedule in writing. Once lawyers are involved people tend to do what they are suppose to and hopefully grow the heck up!!
To YOU...never let a man be your main source of income. Get a job and support yourself. You should NEVER be dependant on a man or anyone for that matter to pay your bills or support you.
2007-03-08 04:42:02 · answer #1 · answered by T C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't need her permission to divorce her. He just needs to get a lawyer and file for divorce. Also, he needs to set up temporary custody, child support and visitation schedule until the divorce is final and all that is settled then.
You are living with a guy who is paying all the bills and now you are refusing to sleep with him after sleeping with him all this time? He's going to leave you anyway.
2007-03-08 04:42:03 · answer #2 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, until he's divorced, then there's no way you can marry him. My rule is...leave married people alone. It's never final until that final degree and judgement is in the hand, until that point...anything can (and usually does) happen.
You should be supporting yourself, not having him support you. Get a job, and have him move out. Tell him you'll resume the relationship with him after his divorce is final. Until then, he needs to concentrate on making himself available.
2007-03-08 04:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me there is ways to get around the divorce issue if he files he will in time get the divorce she cant not divorce him.as for him being your only source of income not a good idea sounds like the situation is unstable so i would find a job and depend on myself its safer that way.as for the child wanting to live with you i would take a lot of time to allow the situation to settle down but i would like to say that the children in this mess should come first the adults got themselves into it all on their own but the kids were born into it and have no escape so they need to be taken care of before anyone else
2007-03-08 04:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong to have an intimate relationship with a married man. You have to put that on hold until he does what he needs to do to divorce his wife and arrange custody through the court system.
It sucks that you are dependent on him, but that's not his problem. His problem is his wife.
Please stop living a sitcom life.
2007-03-08 05:21:54 · answer #5 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you are in the wrong place! You shouldn't be "dating" let alone think you are engaged to a guy who isn't divorced yet! Sheesh... You need to get independent, move out, get a job and pay your own way. That should help you mature really quickly; time to smarten up.
2007-03-08 08:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋