Do some women who have/are been/being hurt in relationships , try and take it out on innocent people?

Question

I am curious. With my experience with women over the past 15 years I have come to the conclusion that some women are intentionally looking to "get back" at some man or men because their current or ex is cheating on them or cheated on them! and they set out to prove something to themselves? or intentionally try to hurt someone else ??

What do you think? why is this?

WHAT IS GOING ON IN THEIR HEADS??

IT SEEMS LIKE SOME WOMEN JUST ARE TRYING TO PLAY "CATCH UP" WITH HURTING SOME INNOCENT PERSON INTENTIONALLY WHILE STILL HARPING ON THEIR LAST PARTNER WHO CHEATED ON THEM OR SIMILAR.

Answer 1

yeah it makes us feel better...

Answer 2

I don't think the majority of women you have met are intentionally setting out to hurt you.

What happens is this;- A woman who is not emotionally secure enough will tend to be attracted to the wrong type of man who sees her coming a mile off, takes everything he can from her without a thought, then leaves her to face the devastation he has left her with alone. This can also happen to a man who isn't emotionally secure enough.

When such a woman/ man finally meets someone worth knowing they simply can't cope with it. Firstly they remember that they thought all the other people were nice people too and they weren't, so it becomes almost impossible to trust.

Secondly, lots of bad experiences with the opposite sex can turn someone bad too.

People enter into dating so easily. If they could only see the dangers there are out there. We are not a benign kindly race when it comes down to it. If you are weak in any way these days, look out!

Having said that, I do still believe that people who hurt basically do so because they are hurting themselves.

Does this help? Recognise warning signs in people,and if you spot several make a quick exit is my advice!

Answer 3

well you're half right I think, but not all women do it intentionally. I have a friend who has had 3 serious relationships, one is the father of her child, and everyone of them cheated on her, and her own father cheated on her mother and subsequently left for another woman and then cheated on her etc etc. Now she has met a lovely man and wants to take things further, but she expects him to cheat and so is finding it very hard to allow all her walls to crumble in case she is sucked in and let down again. She genuinely beleives that men are incapable of keeping their wahatsists in their trousers. As a man you might find that insulting, but u must admist she has had a bad run of luck! That said she does not try to get back at them but is constantly doubting and mentally checking everything. I hope she and you find what youre looking for - I hear all her woes and try to reassure her to give the man a chance... bt time will tell whos right and who's wrong (mind you he's been hurt too - sad world we live in)

Answer 4

Those are the ones that have low self-confidence.
Sometimes they even push away and blame OTHER men that have nothing to do with it.
They could have been abused in some way as a child themselves; and/or probably didnt have a good relationship with their own father. That father-child relationship is very vital and seems to be overlooked and ignored. Not having a father can really mess someone up all through adulthood. They will continue SEARCHING for that missing father.

Answer 5

You've got it all wrong--backwards, for that matter.

A woman who has been burned is not looking to "get back" at an innocent man--she has her guard up, as she does not want to be hurt again. She is playing it safe--she is looking for you to earn her trust because she knows how badly a man is capable of hurting her. She needs reassurance that she will not be hurt by another man--she needs that after being so badly burned.

Do you know what the first questions I asked my husband was--when he proposed to me? "Would you cheat on me?" That was because the man I'd spent 7 years with prior to that was nothing but a liar, cheat, and sneak. Fortunately, my husband turned out to really be a good husband and family man--but I was truly lucky and blessed.

Answer 6

Not me, I'm actually known for being the one to break men's hearts. But I know that some of my friends do because they feel that all men are the same. They cheat on their girlfriends and lie and abuse them. So they treat them all the same with disrespect. But not ALL women do this and just like not ALL men are cheaters.

Answer 7

It can be the same when you are married. If something upsets your wife, then you are the nearest person to kick. But this is only temporary, and things soon revert to normal.
But after 15 years of experience, you should be able to 'read' a female who is using you for some hidden agenda.
'Read 'em and weep' - which, being freely translated means.....avoid 'em like the plague.

Answer 8

How can you work out what's going on in a womens brain when even she doesn't know what's going on! My advice is dont bother, It's too much of a headache son

Answer 9

there is a saying for that , "Nothing like a woman scorned , she will burn whoever she feels" Women unlike men grow very attached very quickly and it is sometimes hard to change behaviors after being tramatized. Women are very sensual , caring and loving beings . She is a gift to a man and should be treated as such. When a woman is hurt she goes into what they call "protective mode". She now has a shield over herself and is no longer able to give herself to another man completely. and this is because she did not fully heal from the hurt she endured.

Answer 10

can only think you're attracted to the kinda women who are a bit nasty and cruel. change your search criteria and you will find that the majority of women aren't like that, i'd say its a personality trait which is triggered by being hurt, which has always been there, they prob were malicious as kids too

Answer 11

You know, many people do that, not just women.
Some people are so bitter and vengeful that they claim they are afraid of another failure, but in reality they are punishing the new person, which is not right.
Not all are like that, though.