that my ex n I that broke up 10 yrs ago will soon get back 2gether 1 day. We r the best of friends n we also sleep together I love him with all my heart n that will never change we have 2 kids together n there will always b love there. than what's the problem I am involed with a man who have abuse me so bad mental & physical til I've tried 2 make everything right btween us n make this work but it's got 2 the point where I care about him but I don't love him, I am loving my ex husband, even thought I know that we can never b together again I can't let him go. The man that I with now want help me do anything he talks about me like a dog to family and friends and not helping me with the bills I pay all the bills n take care of the house n kids, we had fight n he told me the hell with you n my kids not the 1st he said that but now I doing something about it I told him that he got's to go. my mother say that I am doing this because I got hopes my x and I to get back 2gether what u think?
2007-03-08 04:32:53 · 11 answers · asked by pecan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are SLEEPING with your EX and your current boyfriend treats you bad. GO FIGURE. You have SERIOUS ISSUES.
2007-03-08 04:49:13 · answer #1 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, this sounds like a mess. First, thing is to get out of your abusive situation. You need to find a safe place for you and your kids (not with your ex - just yet). Second, you've been cheating on your boyfriend with your exhusband. Doesn't look to good - could be a bit of why your boyfriend is upset (but doesn't excuse his abuse).
You need some time away from all the drama. Swear off either one of these guys for a few months. Get your head clear first. Then if your exhusband wants to woo you and take you out on dates like a normal relationship then cool. But you two should treat this like starting over, instead of playing house again. I imagine that a lot has changed in 10 years. You two need to relearn things about each other and see if you can, want and need to get back together.
Another option, put both of these guys in the past and start over completely fresh.
2007-03-08 12:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is crazy. You are already independent and you don't even know it. You are providing your kids with a home and food and you're doing it alone. Don't worry about what your mom thinks. I know it's important to know what she thinks, but you are more important than that. Another thing, you do not need a man to survive, if I were you, I'd kick that jerk to the curb and start working on you and your kids. Your kids should be more important than any other man.
Look at what your doing girl! YOU ARE PAYING YOUR OWN BILLS WITHOUT A MAN!!! I know he's there, but you are the one taking care of him. See what you are worth... Alot more than he gives you credit or your mom.
And don't worry about your ex. Just worry about you for now.
I wish you the best of luck and all the encouragement someone can give to a single mom. You should never let anyone take advantage of you...
I really hope thigs work out for you.
2007-03-08 12:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by inland102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you...
How do you see yourself?
Do you think you deserve a relationship ... a real one, with a man that's loving respectful and kind to you?
Why do you settle for less than that?
To be the toy of your ex and be the rag of your currrent... that's not life... you should get some time alone and put your life into place.. remember it's not only you... your kids are in the middle of all this and are learning what a relationship should be like.
I hope that you find happiness and get your life on the right track.... there must be something better waiting for you... you just got to be brave and get out of the so called life you lead know.
2007-03-08 12:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by BitterSweet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that you need to find a way to move on without your current husband. Have you called the police every time that he hit you or abused you? If not...then now may be a good time to start. You can start building a file agains him by doing this. Second...you need to find a way to get your own place. I know that he lives with you but you need to find a way to get your own place. Since your mom will not help you then you may need to turn to your friends and even your ex for help. now is not the time to keep quiet about this. especially if you want help. third...seek out the website below (since i don't know which state you live in or even if you live in the states. do yo share an account? then you need to have your own bank account in your own name. make a list of everything that you need to do and start working on that list one item at a time. but keep it from your current husband or he can use that against you. good luck.
2007-03-08 12:45:05 · answer #5 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run do not walk away NOW! Do not stay with someone who is abusive (mentally or physically). Do not use the excuse there is no where to go. Stay with friends/family anywhere but there. I been there done that. I was hard but so much better in the long run. I am now happier and healthier than ever.
2007-03-08 12:41:58 · answer #6 · answered by precious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to move on.
Stop sleeping with the ex. 10 years - you aren't going to get remarried (or issue ultimatum - marriage or nothing).
As for finding someone else - you won't find a decent man willing to date a woman who's in love with her ex and still sleeping with him. Anywhere.
Try doing without for awhile - will do you a world of good.
2007-03-08 12:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by pepper 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need counseling. You seem to have low self esteem. If the man you are with now is verbally
abusive the tell him to take a hike. Why subject your kids to this environment? It isn't healthy.
As for your ex...you need to let him go and get on with your life. He has.
2007-03-08 12:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by Precious Gem 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe your current husband doesn't like the fact that you are still sleeping with your ex. you need some serious counseling and maybe you need to grow up.
2007-03-08 12:44:23 · answer #9 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you have to do,it sounds like "its time to move on"from your relationship.meet other man.and if you and your ex can't be together you should not be thinking of him it will just hurt you and stop you from moving on.I wish you the best in life God bless!!!
2007-03-08 12:52:13 · answer #10 · answered by 8agm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋