How do you know your in love and happy?

Question

I have been in a relationship for almost 5 years. I have been called names, mostly the B. I have been lied to. But still i can't figure out what to do?? I feel so put down that i can't imagine having a sexual relationship with him and all the lies. I don't know how to let it go. Please no put downs. I realize I have got myself in this situation I just don't know how to figure out if your done~~

Answer 1

well personally i have not had a relationship that lasted that long.. but anyway. Being with someone for so long, it is hard to imagine you like without them! Breaking up is such a hard thing to do too! but once its done and over with you will look back and think to yourself... why was i ever with that jerk in the first place??!! I'm telling you it will hurt like hell the first few weeks, but its a small price you have to pay to find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated! good luck girl!

Answer 2

If you are not done, then I think you should be. This guy is verbally abusing and seemingly mentally abusing you also. If he is lying to you then I don't see a reason for you to stick around. I think that you are just around because you are accustomed to having him around and of not being alone. If this is the case then I think you should leave. He doesn't love you if he is lying to you. there is no telling how much he has lied about or what he has lied about. 9 out of 10 times he is probably unfaithful. I don't mean to sound harsh but this is true. What you should do is realize that you are not at fault here and that you deserve to be treated better. You won't have trouble finding someone to treat you like you deserve to be treated. Yes it will hurt being alone at first, but i the long run I think that this is the best option for you because you are in a dead end relationship filled with lies, abuse, and deceit. Good luck with whatever you decide to do..

Answer 3

If you're in love and happy it is plainly evident. From the time you first wake up in the morning and you're excited to get started in a new day - looking forward to spending time with the person you love.

No, it's not always like I've described above, but more often than not it should be.

If it isn't, try to talk with your partner honestly about how you think life should be, how you want to feel every day. Maybe he's frustrated too.

From your description it sounds as though you are in an abusive relationship that is not salvageable, but you may just be writing this on a bad day. Try what I suggest above, see what happens.
Good luck

Answer 4

gather up your remaining self esteem and proclaim 'I am worth much more than this. I deserve better!" Then take a deep breath and walk out the door. Call you friends, family, anyone who can be supportive and go sleep on their couch for the first few nights to get back on your feet. It is going to be hard, it will hurt, but it is so worth it!

Answer 5

You have to love yourself or nobody else will. Letting him lie to you and call you names only shows that you don't care about yourself, so why should he? It's not going to be easy, but cut all ties with him & spend some time focusing on yourself.

Answer 6

Well, you are obviously not happy or in love if you feel this way. He doesnt respect you if he calls you a bytch, and if there is no sex, there is no closeness. You need to sit down and re-evaluate your feelings. Sounds to me like it is time to move on!!!!

Answer 7

Sure sounds to me like you're done. Or, you ought to be.

Tell him that you are moving on. Then do it. You deserve much better than this. Don't let this user keep using you.

Answer 8

Go get some professional therapy...NOW! You need to find out when you let your self esteem and self respect go and you need to learn how to get it back.