Isn't fantasiesing about someone other then your spouse kinda cheating?

Answer 1

no, its not cheating.
though I think that if you are happily married, you won't fantasize about someone else.
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if you aren't interested in your spouse, and don't fantasize about them, but someone else, your love life has gone down the drain, and the purpose of marriage has gone down the drain, also.
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I say, thinking of someone in a lustful way isn't bad, ever. But when you are happily married, you won't think about anyone else other than your spouse in a lustful way, because that is who you are interested in, (their soul, and body.) if you don't find your spouse lustful anymore, than your marriage isn't what it used to be, and probably is hanging by threads.
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But, on the other hand, some people are good looking. I mean come on, your married to an attractive man, yes. But he isn't going to be Elvis Presley, right? And thats something every married person needs to overcome. But, just because there is more attractive people out there, doesn't mean that should take away the interest your spouse should have in you, and visa versa. They shouldn't fantasize over someone else, more than their spouse, thats called "UNHAPPY MARRIAGE"
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I don't see anything particually "wrong" with it, the only thing I see is unhappy marriage. And more than half of the worlds people either get divorced, or are in an unhappy marriage. If you aren't interested in your spouse enough to fantasize about them, or you fantasize over someone else more than you do them, then you know there is something wrong.
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Hope I helped,
Xo,

** SARAH **

Answer 2

No, it's not cheating....however, it can and will get you into trouble if you're not careful. Fantasizing about a celebrity is the "safest" in terms of preserving a healthy relationship because you know you will probably never "get a chance" with him/her. But I caution you again, because fantasizing about a celebrity, can eventually lead to you fantasize about someone that you know, work with, or lives near you that LOOKS, or ACTS, or reminds you of that celebrity in one or more ways. Before long, you're fantasizing about HIM/HER. At that point the chances of you eventually acting on your fantasy with that person sky rockets which can be very dangerous for your marriage for obvious reasons. I'm not say that you would actually go after anyone, but if your fantasy goes from celebrity to someone you could actually hook up with, things can get pretty hairy.

To sum it up, I'm not too big on advocating fantasies that don't include both spouses, and no one else but both spouses as being a "healthy" or "normal" part of a relationship. Sex is the ultimate gift you can give to someone you truly love. To be honest with you by thinking about some romantic scenario with someone other than your husband, makes your husband less attractive to you...much like pornography does to men. Again, I'm not saying this would ever happen to you, but I see it all the time...with both husbands and wives. Before long the husband/wife either has an affair, or begins to find excuses to end the marriage. This doesn't happen often but it happens enough to warrant a little concern.

The best thing to do is to either try to act out the fantasy with your husband (as long as it doesn't include a 3rd party or anyone else...and think of no one else but HIM while acting it out), or just try not to think about it all together.

Look I know you're human, we're all human. We have urges and thoughts about the opposite sex quite often. It's who we are. It doesn't make us bad people for doing so because it's simply the way we're wired. But if you really want to keep "contamination" out of your relatinoship try to include your spouse (in the fantasy AND physically), or try to think about it a little less, or both and you should be just fine.

Answer 3

O honey! Fantasies are so normal and healthy. It is no where close to cheating, because your not acting on anything. Just playing it out in your head. It's ok to find someone attractive, your not hurting anyone your just appreciating God's gifts on this earth. Also some couples enjoy sharing fantasies, some say it helps keep the sex from being boring. Regardless if you share them or not, do not feel guilty. Its very natural and harmless.

Have fun!

Answer 4

It depends, if you are of a religious persuasion then yes it would considered adultery as they say that to have lustful thoughts is to commit adultery in your heart. However, we are all humans, and sometimes a thought pops into your head and you can't stop it, we've all had thoughts about another person. As long as you are not acting on your thoughts, or trying to make your fantasy a reality then there is no actual harm done, although I am sure there would be wounded feelings if your partner knew that you were thinking about someone else.

Answer 5

Yes. It is cheating. It is cheating in your heart and that is just about as bad as actually doing it physically. Actions start as as thoughts, and if one thinks a certain way, they are half way there to actually doing the act.

Answer 6

Everybody is gonna see someone and go " I think they are good looking" regardless if your married or not.Constantly fantasizing is not healthy and can be hurtful.I can kinda see the cheating factor in that.

Answer 7

It's a symptom of declining interest in your spouse.

Answer 8

Yeah, I kind of think it is. Instead fantasize about the ... interesting things you and your spouse could do. Then talk about them and see if both are willing to make'em real!!

Answer 9

fantasizing about another person is perfectly normal and in truth probably healthy as long as it remains just a fantasy. if you take it farther than that then yes it becomes an issue of cheating.

Answer 10

I dont think it would be. Dreams and fantizing can get you excited for your spouse and put a little spice in your life