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Question

I've slept with a number of men, a low number, yet a number.. And while I do enjoy sex, I never seem to be able to climax. Not once! I've tried many things, I wont list them here.. But I am looking for suggestions. I think it may come down to me just being overly shy.

Answer 1

You know I had the same problem. I joined the military at 19 and slept with many many men. Got married 14 years later divorced and it wasn't until I or should I say jumped the fence that I had my first orgasm at 36. I wouldn't go back for all the tea in China. Maybe you are not orgasming because you are not being true to yourself. Try it you might like it so go ahead and jump that fence. I'll never climb back to the other side.

Answer 2

A lot of women, take a long time to aroused, and then more time to reach orgasm.
The mind is a powerful thing, and sub-conciously, although you want sex, you might not be relaxed enough to let go and just enjoy the sensations of your body.
Foreplay with a partner, could start from early morning, a sexy message slipped into your purse, a phone call describing what is to be done to you, a few drinks, lots of touching, kissing.
Exploring with your fingers, tongue, slip off partially an item of clothing, slip it back on, tease each other.
A man climaxes a lot quicker than a woman, let your partner, indulge you to a point, that leaves you begging, before you reciprocate and pleasure him.
And only do what makes you feel comfortable with....
Hope that you find the elusive "O"

Answer 3

The same thing use to happen to me(when I was having sex.. The only time I would l climax is if I was on top or I would have to be really (wet down there). Try kissing a just touching before having sex so you are more in the mood. Try ky jelly or try telling your partner what feels good and how you like it.
good luck

Answer 4

Having a climax is very much a mental thing for a women...Ive proved this to myself, because when I was pregnant..I could climax in my sleep...Its strange but somewhat common. Look I have a hard time having a orgasim if its too small, too big ect...And its all in your head, like I could only orgasim if I was with someone I loved or felt very close to...And he had to be the right size for me. (sorry guys, size does kinda play a factor, but the way you feel about the guy matters most.) Find someone you truely care about, or love, relax yourself and focus on what you are doing...I used to think about how much I loved the guy to help me. And tell him you have a hard time, maybe more foreplay is involved....

Point...You have to find what works for you. And remember it is in your head.

Answer 5

Can you climax on your own?
If you can than it could just be that the guys aren't being attentive enough.
If you can't...do some self-exploration. And then perhaps a little bit of research.
It could, although hopefully not, also be a medical condition.
Best of luck.

Answer 6

I might suggest getting intimate and fall in love and lust with a guy first, because sex alone will not get you wound up enough i think. There has to be some love to make it a full blown orgasming passion

Answer 7

How old are you? Cuz I didn't have my first orgasm during intercourse until I was 20. I started having sex at 17. They say women sometimes don't have orgasms during intercourse until they are 21. So age matters, I guess.

Answer 8

try a sex toy, like a vibrator, find your g spot (clitoris)+tease it! i guarantee that should do the trick. IM me if u liKE.

Answer 9

it might be because you're not letting yourself go completely, don't think about anything during. actually just think of how it feels...try it and see

Answer 10

Relax, masterbate and learn your own body then tell your partner what does it for you.....hope this works