my hubbys e girlfriend from child hoos passed away..aaa odd feeling?

Question

my hubby's girlfriend from childhood passed away on saturday and this saturday is the viewing and he wants me to go but i feel odd ` did this ever happen to anyone? Well he was with her a big part of his life b/c back then he would get into truble and all and he waswith her about 3 years ~onand off ..But they talked up till he meet me ~ About 4 years ageo . we got married ing june so 5 years in june he has not talked to her but ..he wants me to go ? would u go ? idk i think alot of old feeling will come up and that will get me upset to see he cares for this girl more then he thought ~ and now it's to late to chage aneything .~

WHAT would u do and what should i do >?

yes , i said that to him , he should go and have his feelings but my mind is going back and forth if i should be there he wants me to go but i feel if it wasnot for me they would be together and she would be alive

Answer 1

Why would he need to go? Like you said she is from the past and he hasnt even talked to her in years. So yeah its a bummer she died, but ....why go.

Answer 2

Maybe he's asking you to be polite, so you don't worry that he is hiding any feelings.

I would tell him that I think it's a great idea that he goes, he needs to do this and blah blah blah. I would then ask him if he wanted me to go to support HIM or if he would rather I gave him time alone to grieve.

This way, you're telling him it's okay to be sad about an old friend passing, and you know it's important to pay respect while also telling him you don't particularly think you'd fit in. And, if he asked you to go out of respect for you and your relationship, you are letting him know that that's not necessary.

Answer 3

Really you need to wake up. Im sorry but i gotta give it ya straight. If he dated her that long in his past then yes he loved her at one point in time. I have ex's who i dont have feelings for, and dont want to be with them but because of our history, and the things we went through together i always have love love for them but that doesnt mean i want to be with them. You should go. He needs you. She died. He has the right to cry. It doesnt mean he wanted to be with her but to see someone you once cared for dead its not a good feeling and you could show him your are by his side by consoling him. I had a ex die and my bf took me to the hospital where he was, to the funeral and the wake. He didnt come in with me (his choice) but he did support me and stand by me while i was grieving over anotha man. Be by his side no bad can come from this only good. Its not like they can get back together so put your insecurities aside and be a woman to your man and thats be by his side to help him over come this tradegy.


Really think about it and put yourself in his shoes. If you and him were to break up and you died 3 yrs later after the breakup and he had moved on. Would you not want him to come to your funeral just b/c his new girl (current girlfriend) doesnt agree. it would only be respect ful to show up and pay your respects... Life is to short get ova the dumb ish

Answer 4

STOP acting like that. The lady is "dead". so what if his feelings come out? he wont and cant act upon them...go and be there for him...yes, i'm sure he loved her and still does....it doesn't mean he doesn't love you. you are his wife, and as a wife you should be there for him, hold his hand, give him hugs....stop thinking about yourself for a minute.

Answer 5

He wants to say goodbye to his friend and you should feel honored that he wants to share this with you. Go with him, he's your husband and he needs you.

Answer 6

out of respect for your spouse...u should put your feelings aside and go

Answer 7

Go, your husband needs you.

Answer 8

grow up and go

Answer 9

b supportive....