What causes Obsessive compulsive thinking? Especially involving relationships?

Question

I will think about it 24/7. I cannot even sleep some nights. And it just totally turns my life around until I just cold turkey stop and then it is very hard and i suffer withdrawel symptoms from it. ( refering to just about anybody who I take a slight interest in or who flirts with me and I take it way too far)

I THINK IT IS DEFINITELY SCARING OFF A FEW POSSIBLE WOMEN THAT I COULD OF HAD A CHANCE AT .

I THINK IT IS DEFINITELY SCARING AWAY OR TURNING OFF A FEW POSSIBLE WOMEN FOR A RELATIONSHIP.

I AM A SUCKER.

Answer 1

I think it's different things that cause this type of behaviour. You could be relying too much on finding a partner. If you don't have much going on in your own life then it's easy to become obsessed with someone elses.

Answer 2

Scientists on this issue disagree on wether this is a pyschological condition caused by experiences or a strictly biological disorder effecting the brain i.e. Nature vs. Nuture. The majority of researchers believe that there is some type of abnormality in the neurotransmitter serotonin, among other possible psychological or biological abnormalities; however, it is possible that this activity is the brain's response to OCD, and not its cause. As for the those who think its pychological condition many observations have been made in an attempt to explain obsessive and compulsive disorder. I thought this quote from frueds writing on the topic would help shed some light on this vast topic especially in your case. " Once it starts, in very early childhood, the patient shows a strong desire to touch, the aim of which is of a far more specialized kind that one would have been inclined to expect. This desire is promptly met with an external prohibition against carrying out that particular kind of touching. The prohibition is accepted, since it finds support from power internal forces, and proves stronger than the instinct which is seeking to express itself in the touching. In consequence, however, of the child's primitive psychical constitution, the prohibition does not succeed in abolishing the instinct. Its only result is to repress the instinct (the desire to touch) and banish it into the unconscious. Both the prohibition and instinct persist: the instinct because it has only been repressed and not abolished, and the prohibition because, if it ceased, the instinct would force its way through into consciousness and into actual operation. A situation is created which remains undealt with—a psychical fixation—and everything else follows from the continuing conflict between the prohibition and the instinct."

Answer 3

Obsessive compulsive thinking IMO is caused from not accepting who you are, where you are, what can happen to you or others and basically controlling your actions. It is all mental instability. Acceptance is the key to just let it go. Accept every ting as they are and stop worrying about what you can't do or change. The Universe has a way of making things work out as they should. If it was meant to be then it will be. Thinking or worrying about it won't change anything. All that will do is cause you problems physically, mentally, emotionally and socially.

Answer 4

try to find calm in your life, I've had trouble with OCD for a long time, i actually moved to 4 different homes withing 2 years.

but Finlay i got to the place where i feel most relaxed, the whole moving thing was part of a greater process to find calmness in life, i had to go through it because it was getting too hectic.
now i see my Friends less often, i rather spend the week ends at home & find some calming things to do like cooking.

now the point is: once you train your self to live a slower paced life style, your going to start to rationlize & think at the same pace of an avarage guy, ofcourse you need to monitor your stress & sleep levels, but it generally becomes smooth sailing. i am judging that your OCD is minor and overcome for the most part without medication.

good luck

Answer 5

Thinking is a function of your mind. The purpose of your mind is to keep you alive and to make you happy. To do this your mind is constantly on the lookout for things that might harm or kill you or things that might make you unhappy. Notice I said 'might.'

Your mind is a problem solver and is constantly looking for problems to solve (how to keep you alive and happy). Unfortunately (as in compulsive thinking) when there are no real problems to solve the mind just makes something up to keep busy. If you not feeling happy your mind will look for a reason why you're not happy and then just keep trying to solve the problem to make you happy. It becomes a viscous circle.

You think you have no control over your thinking, but you are forgetting that you are the one who is doing the thinking. Please read Richard Carlson's book "You Can Be Happy No Matter What." Carlson gives advice on taking control of your thoughts. You can control what you think about and it is not that difficult.

Answer 6

Nowadays, there's too many brands for illnesses and problems. Obsessing is actually a form of insecurity you need to overcome. Its a need to know, a need to settle something, a need to get things done immediately. Its actually just a mind-set and teaching yourself to relax - both physically and mentally. I can't teach you that but you might find help with a psychiatrist or a therapist. Good luck.

Answer 7

Lack of trust and anxiety.

Go talk to a counselor about it. If that isn't you, go to Amazon and look up books about OCD. Many of them will be totally over the top like - the boy who couldn't stop washing his hands. If you read the content and try and relate it to your thinking instead of the activity, it will help you understand. And - don't get obsessive when you analyze it. :)

Answer 8

I wish I knew. I do the same damn thing. But you just gotta try to break the pattern. When you notice yourself thinking about it - get up and move, read a book, call someone, do something to distract you. Even if just to break the cyclical thinking. If you train yourself to conciously change what you're thinking about your mind won't fall so easily into repetitive thinking. At least, that's what I try to do. But I still have my moments!!

Answer 9

I believe you are a sensitive personalety. You take things straight to your heart and that's not very good. You should start finding something else to put your attention to. You should not put your heart and mind to it so much, someone might just come by and use it and you'll be the hurt one left behind.

Answer 10

Freud says it is all caused by our relationship with our mothers as children. How was your childhood with your mother. You may have some things to work out