My man and I have been together for six years and i'm ready to start a family and get married. He says the only reason he won't do it is becuase his mother doesn't like me. I have never done anything to her but try to be her friend. I have done things to him in the past when i was younger and didn't know what i wanted. She and i reciently had and arguement which she started by getting into my business. now he wants me to apologize for her actions. I want nothing more than to be his wife and have his kids but I don't want to live my life to please his mother. What should i do should I leave him and let him please his mother or should i stay and pray she will accept me someday. And is it right for him not to marry me bc she doesn't like me.
2007-03-08 03:58:43 · 24 answers · asked by kristalpeep 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your boyfriend is letting anything . . . and I mean anything . . . stand in the way of marrying you, then he doesn't want to marry you. If he really wanted to, then he would.
2007-03-08 04:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to say, but this momma's boy is just that...and he's going to hold off marrying you because of his mother till the end of time.
Its a sad truth that you pissed away over half a decade with this guy, but let this be a lesson.
Any man who will choose ANYBODY (and I do mean ANY body) over the person he supposedly loves is NOT the person you want to marry.
Because eventually there WILL be a time in your marriage when he might have to make a choice between you (regardless of whether you're right or wrong) and someone else.
If he can't stand by you now, he's never going to.
2007-03-08 04:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is going to hurt you more than me, You need to either pack your or his things and get out.
Regardless of how you feel about him, If you think it's bad now wait and see what happens if you did marry him.
He's showing little respect for you, in regards to his mother.
In short he's a mom ma's boy, and there's nothing wrong with that I'm too.
My mom wasn't sure about my wife so soon after my ex and I got a divorce. But she came around, she's a good women also, it wasn't she just didn't like my wife, as she did she just thought we were moving to fast.Glad I DIDN'T"T listen to my mom. As were newlyweds going on 12 yrs. now. And she truly loves my wife, as I do, She the last love I'll ever have.
He has to man up to his mom, if not she be in your business forever and into all facets if you know what I mean, because my ex wife had the same problem your b/f has.
Hope this helps
2007-03-08 04:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by walker9842 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Clearly, this guy is not on the same page as you. If he's letting his mother make his decisions then you are going to have to face reality. Your past will never be forgotten, & just because you now know what you want, doesn't mean he does. He's clearly confused & if you really loved him then why rush him into something he's not sure of? I think a bit of patience is needed & my dear, no matter what you don't disrespect your elders by arguing with them. Doesn't mean she's right but come on it's the guy you supposedly love's mother!
2007-03-08 04:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by Lee Ann M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know the expression "why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?"he has the perfect set up you want him so bad but allow him to put his mother before you.momma will always be a issue she will rule your marriage your family and you will be expected to abide by momma's rules honey get out while you can. you are not happy and you know it. after 6 years and the guy won't marry you ? time to go honey as long as you stick around it will only get worse and fyi momma will never accept you you wanna take her boy away.go find another and start your family this guy belongs to mommy.
2007-03-08 04:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has told you that he won't marry you because his mother doesn't like you, that is what he means. If you were to marry him, his mother would always be in your business. I think you should move on and let this one go. He isn't going to change his mind and his mother will never like you. You are just going to set yourself up for major disappointment if you continue to stay. Thank you.
2007-03-08 04:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's fair if he really does love you he would tell his mother to back off. why don't you and him and his mother sit down tried to have a talk about this and see what the his mother problems is with you the thing about my marriage it's time to break away from family and start your own family just tried to have a a conservation with her and if your doesn't appreciate you and you fiance doesn't take up for you then its time to move on.
2007-03-08 04:11:07 · answer #7 · answered by airplanes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that it is obvious that he is a "mamma's boy" and it is obvious that he doesn't WANT to marry you...why this hasn't occured to you over the past six years is beyond me. Wake up and smell the coffee honey you're not going to be marrying this guy and having his babies. Stop praying becuase God has already given you the answer...you just don't want to see it.
2007-03-08 10:21:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not stay. He has to love you enough to put you 1st.
What do you think it will be like when you have kids with her around?
His mother should be having NO SAY in your relationship. What do you think he and she will be like with children! Why do you want to deal with that?
Go find a man who acts like a man and not mommies little boy. Someone who loves YOU and will stand by you!!! They are out there, I am happily married to one!!! :) Good luck!
2007-03-08 04:13:08 · answer #9 · answered by Ann 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Mel.. get out now. if he lets his mother control what he wants, then he is not a real man. Just do whats best for you and find someone that loves you and his family loves you also.
If you do marry him, it will only get worst, ang she will cause the breakup/divorce.
2007-03-08 04:07:36 · answer #10 · answered by questions 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to cut the apron strings. He has two choices - 1. let mom run his life and no marriage; and 2. don't let mom run his life and live his own life as he would. Seems like a no-brainer to me.
2007-03-08 04:12:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋