On Sunday I got really really drunk and woke up naked in bed with a friend. There was blood all over the sheets, the carpet, the walls... I'm a virgin and thought he just fingered me too hard (plus his nails weren't cut) but I just found out last night that we had sex. That being bad enough, I am STILL kind of bleeding. I didn't think it was that strange because I've bled before when guys fingered me and it had kind of stopped a couple of days ago but today when I went to the bathroom a LOT of bright red blood soaked into the toilet paper. So I decided to take a look and see what was going on and discovered that I am TORN the F*** UP! I can see my hymen is torn in lots of places and I have a few rather deep splits in my vagina. Is this normal or do I need to do something about it? I'm too scared to go to the doctor because I don't know how to explain it to my parents if I need some sort of procedure. (I'm 19 and they would probably be almost as broken hearted as I am if they found out)
2007-03-08 03:48:40 · 11 answers · asked by c-lion 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Sweetheart, you have got to go to a doctor and get this checked out. I'm not trying to gross you out here but heavey drinking, teenage and early twenties can add up to some pretty kinky stuff at parties and in the bedroom. Don't be too surprised to learn from your doctor that your friend might not have been the only object inside of you, I'm talking about girls with glass bottles,baseball bats, lamp bases and the like. Most important that you get to a doctor and in most places they don't have to tell your parents about any of this since you're over 18. You only get one body hon and you have to take care of it.
BTW you aren't alone in this, when I was twenty and partying heavily in college I found a picture of myself in my bf room. It was a picture of me with a bowling pin ...... it answered the question of why I was bleeding so much. I was so embarrassed that I almost dropped out of school. The worse part about it is that I don't remember it ever happening because I totally blacked out.
2007-03-08 04:05:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get to the emergency room, or your family doctor immediately. It is not normal to be bleeding what seems to be excessive from "normal" intercourse or "fingering."
You do not have to explain this occurrence to your parents, although you should definitely learn to control your consumption of alcohol.
You have been raped, there is no other way to say this. You should really be thinking about your choice of friends. Any young man who would abuse a female friend in any manner, especially sexually; while she or they are intoxicated is not a friend.
I do not have any idea why you appear to be torn or cut, this does not seem as if you participated in "normal" intercourse, did this "friend" use something else other than his penis on you? I do not really want to think that, but I have been married for years and years, and have never had anything vaguely similar happen.
You need to get medical help, and be tested for any STDs and HIV/Aids as soon as possible. You may have also been given additional drugs to knock you out. I do not know how you could have been so unaware of what was being done to you.
Please for your own health and well-being get help now.
2007-03-08 12:17:24 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are not a virgin anymore because he popped your "cherry". He tore your hymen and probably several other tissues inside of you as well. You can always go to a clinic or have your parents take you to the Ob/GYN for a look. The doctor cannot tell your rents anything because you are of age and neither can the clinic either for that matter. And if they carry you on their medical insurance, then the insurance bill will only say exam on it. Good Luck.
2007-03-08 13:42:57 · answer #3 · answered by goofylynn2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a doctor and dont worry about telling him what went on because he cant tell your parents because of patient confidentiality. It sounds like you were raped, or very ill prepared for sex, and that caused your friend to do some damage. Your doctor will be able to help with this. If you were unconcious and your friend had sex with you, that equals rape in a lot of states.
2007-03-08 12:55:08 · answer #4 · answered by Jsess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're an adult now. you can go to any walk in clinic or hospital without the consent of your parents. you're 19, you're old enough to make your own choices, even if they are regrettable ones. i would get checked out. some bleeding is normal, but if you're pretty torn up, you should definitely take care of it because your vagina can get seriously infected when it's open to bacteria like that.
2007-03-08 12:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by married_men_love_me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do need to see a doctor simply because you are bleeding so heavily for several days. Maybe some stiches are needed. You do not have to explain anything to the doctor, simply refuse to explain and your parents won't know because you won't tell. Please go see a doctor, for your own safety.
2007-03-08 11:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by Josephine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah you need to see a doctor..that is not normal..sounds like something else might have been used..goodness girl becareful..especially if you cant remember what you do. SEE A DOCTOR!
2007-03-08 12:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by wartytoadjody39 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you sure he didn't use anything on you other than his fingers? you might want to see a doctor just so they can give you some proper treatment, sometimes if left untreated things can get infected. ouch, that sucks dude... good luck.
2007-03-08 12:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not normal sweetie, you should definitely see a doctor.
2007-03-08 12:07:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should definatly go and see a doctor. he could have used things other than just his fingers and thats not good! you could have infections...go get checked out a.s.a.p!
2007-03-08 12:03:39 · answer #10 · answered by ƪ♥ᴀᴀᴙᴓɳ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋