me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year, he has 2 kids , they're great kids and i understand his kids come first no matter what, the only thing that bothers me is the fact that he still has to talk to his ex like when they call so he can talk to the kids she would start talking to him , he told me that they have to maintain a relationship because otherwise is not fair to the kids but at the same time this is hard for me i tried so many times not to let it bother me but still does.
2007-03-08 03:48:11 · 6 answers · asked by Nashira 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to have a little more confidence. If he wanted to be with her, he would be. But he is with you. Have respect for him and his kids and allow him to have that open communication with her. It's best for the kids and down the road, you will see that it will benefit everyone. Keep in mind that it's probably much harder on him than it is on you and give him credit for being mature.
2007-03-08 03:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes..your feeling is very normal. My ex-husband had a very civil relationship with his first wife. She would call at least 2 times a week about something and he would talk to her and the boys. It really bothered me sometimes...That being said, you either trust him or you don't! He has to be civil to her for the sake of his kids. If you can't handle his ex being a part of his life..then you need to leave now. She'll be around for at least 18 years. If you wanted her..he would be with her. Don't go causing tension were it doesn't need to be. Either deal with it, or leave. If he is a good dad, he will always choose his children and their well being first. I've been there and I understand, it's hard, but if you love him and trust him..you can do it! Good luck!
2007-03-08 17:35:52 · answer #2 · answered by Justinsmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't handle your man being civil with his ex, then you need to leave him now. His children and ex wife are going to be apart of his life for the rest of it. You either need to accept it or move on. There is no other advice that anyone can offer you now. Perhaps you should look for a man without the baggage. Thank you and good luck.
2007-03-08 11:53:40 · answer #3 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant do anything about your boyfriend talking to his ex wife... they have kids so naturally they will still have to talk... as long as they talk only about the kids, it should be fine.
2007-03-08 12:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by annika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi nashira_,
my typical answer to ur q is ur b/f is sailing keeping his two feet on two boats. this is not at all fair. both of u cannot sail. try to forget him. try a new venture. enjoy the life!
2007-03-08 11:57:22 · answer #5 · answered by amarnath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you throw your life away on this loser? this guy couldn't make it work the first time and it won't work with you either - you'll end up like Brittaney Spears shaving your head and going nutz!
Drop this bum like a bad habit.
2007-03-08 11:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by stupido#1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋