is it wrong to not like Gay people?

Question

This question is in context to Tim Hardaway and John Amaechi meeting on the Oprah show ... Amaechi said "I'd agree to it, so it won't be on me," responding to rumors that such a meeting could take place on Oprah Winfrey's show. "It's certainly something I'd be interested in doing. And I think everybody deserves a chance at redemption." ... now, Tim may need to redeem himself for the comments he made (I go by the old addage, if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say it), but isn't it ok to "not" like someone, or a group? I feel like they are trying to change Tims mind about gays, and isnt that really the problem? if he doenst like gays, so be it ... and in a sense, shouldn't he be thanked for his honesty, and everyone can move on ... and who cares how he feels about gays anyway ... is this the reverse of what many gays hate themselves? ... someone trying to convince them that their way of thinking is wrong

Answer 1

Interesting and judging by some of the answers, provocative.

I must note though, Tim didn't say he disliked us, he said he hated us and that we should all be removed (one can only imagine the meaning behind that word).

Now allow me to give the same statement in a different manner: "I hate blacks, their disgusting, they should be removed" or " I hate Jews, their disgusting, they should be removed"

One assumes the point is made and understood.

By all means dislike who you wish, hate even, I don't care. What I DO care about is when peoples bigotry affects my life and like it or not, this attitude affects my life. Because of this kind of hatred, be it religious or ignorant in nature, I have to be conscious at all times of how I may be perceived or worse, will I be attacked today.

Heterosexuals do not wake up every day with that kind of thought running through their head, but most gays will have it cross their minds. That's not living, that's survival.

You ask is it wrong to not to like gay people, short answer no.

Is it wrong to let that personal feeling of yours harm, deprive or in any way affect negatively on gay people.......yes.

Answer 2

No it is not wrong not to like gay people...that is a personal choice! What is wrong about it is to verbally discriminate against any group that is out there. Whether it is gay/lesbian, African Americans, Middle Easterns, Hispanics, or even women, that opinion is your opinion and as long as you do not project hatred with it, should be fine. Once you put the words into a hatred form and voice that opinion then that is where it wrong! You would not want people to hate you for whom you were born to be, do not hate others for the way they are. People will always be different, and being different is what made this country what was suppose to be the greatest nation of acceptance in the world, instead we have became the biggest nation of ignorance and hatred then any other country I have seen!

Answer 3

In my opinion YES it is wrong not to like Gay People, because before you are gay, you are a HUMAN BEING first. If you do not like a certain kind of group or people/person that's fine, you're entitled to feel that way. But when you set out to hurt, slander, verbal or physically abuse someone, then you are wrong. I think Tim Hardaway's comments where repulsive unfair and just plain ol wrong. If he doesn't like Gay People, those are his feelings and he's entiltled to them but keep them to yourself. Hat's off to John Amaechi for having the courage to come out to the world about is true identity.

Answer 4

"Wrong" carries with it a moral judgment that I'm uncomfortable imposing on others based on such a small amount of information.

There's certainly nothing wrong with disliking a gay person on a personal level or even groups formed around ideologies when those ideologies are offensive, say NAMBLA guys. Heck, I know some transwomen I cannot stand, not because they're TS, but because they're thoroughly unpleasant people.

Judging a person on his or her actions is normal and acceptable.

Disliking gay people as a group because they're gay reduces all homosexuals to one aspect of their being, which is small-minded and bigoted. Advocating discrimination or actively discriminating, creating an atmosphere of distrust that causes harm to others who've not harmed you in any way just because those people are different, *that* is wrong.

As to the above comment about being "bigoted against bigots", this is a very old logical fallacy which has a technical name, but which I prefer to think of as the "I'm rubber, your glue" fallacy. Negative judgments of bigots is an evaluation of their actions, a judgment regarding what they do and say that affects others, not a judgment regarding who they are.

I'm sometimes not entirely comfortable in a group of men because I've had bad experiences in the past, but I'm not going to blame or judge every man based on that history. That's my issue, not theirs.

Answer 5

this is the thing, you are entitle to hate anyone, but you can't hate a group of people. You can hate someone if his or her personal characteristics bother you or go against your believes. You can't hate a group o people or an entire race because you don't know every single individual and believe me individuals of a same race or group are very different from each other. So can't hate gays, because there are gays in all flavors and colors, like you can't hate blacks or Hispanic for the same reason.

Answer 6

You know, sometimes you just have to take a step back from the whole gay v. anti-gay debate and just get yourself right. In my opinion, what a person thinks of me, positive or otherwise, has absolutely no bearing on my life. If they want to sit there and lump a bunch of people into the same category and say "Oh, I don't care for them", then that's great. Life is much easier when you don't have to think about it, isn't it?

Answer 7

I dont even know who this Tim person, or John person are..I know who Oprah is.. I dont like her. but that dont mean I dont like all black people as a group,, or those other people as a group. And what does it matter anyway, theres alot of people who are just closed minded. and ya know, thats there loss, there missing out on alot of good, honest, loving people. and I say "BOO HOO" to them.
by the way,, Im gay...

Answer 8

Everyone has a right to feel the way they do as long as there not harming the person or group they dont like.
remeber that crazy christian killers at abortion clinics

Answer 9

i think we have the right to like or dislike anyone we meet there is nothing that says we cant,the problems come into play when you are disrespectful to anyone because you think you have the right to due to who they love that's insane it would be like saying OK you are a wonderful person i like talking to you and spending time with you but... due to the fact your straight i cant stand you that's ridiculous if people would spend more time getting to know someone and less time worrying about who they sleep with it would do alot to bring people together

Answer 10

i don't agree with homosexuality but i don't hate gay people,there is nothing wrong in disliking certain things that people do but i think that hating a person based on that isn't right. I just think that people have the right to their own opinions so long as they don't try to impose it on others.