he met in a bar without a condom. this started coz i called him a lazy man and told him he cant get another woman. what should i do.
2007-03-08 03:21:33 · 22 answers · asked by grace w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like a great relationship.
Get away, call the poilice, press charges, DON'T DROP THEM!
File for divorce, and never sleep with him again, who knows what he may have caught during his night of physical violence and cheating.
2007-03-08 03:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by no1bucsfan26 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a big problem with anger or frustration from both sides... But there was no excuse for him to beat you... no good reason at all for that kind of abuse! I do believe that he will say you treated him badly and got what you deserved, but that is not true! You should decide if you really love him and seek help for both of you... counseling would be a good place to start! As far as the unprotected sex with a bar hopper, that is still of much concern, and he should be checked out for STD's which he can pass on to you! If you both are not willing to work out these issues, the best thing to do is to get away from him either temporarily or permanently... and avoid the future beatings! Once a man is a wife beater, that's a pattern for him that is hard to break... Good luck and I hope you are ok... you should also be checked for internal injury or any broken or bruised parts of your body... he can be put in jail for that... it's called domestic violence!
2007-03-08 11:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by MaggieO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well looks like he won your little bet. But just one of those things would have me walking. If a man ever raises a hand to a woman, I believe she should be out the door. I have always told my husband that, and we have never had a problem with it. No one deserves to be beaten by their spouse or anyone else for that matter. Then we take into consideration that he slept with another woman cause he was mad at you. That is not right!! Plus he did it without protection, who knows what he might have gotten from this other girl. Hun, just do the best thing for yourself and get away from him!!
2007-03-08 11:29:02 · answer #3 · answered by bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You and your husband should figure out why you're married. If it's to treat each other disrespectfully, then you don't have a problem.
If this is a serious question,...
1. Both of you should get tested for STDs
2. Have an honest conversation with each other about what you expect out of your marriage and what it means to you
3. Go to couples counseling
4. Stop provoking each other and end the drama
If you're not going to love and treat each other respectfully, do yourselves a favor and just end it now.
2007-03-08 11:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You didn't / haven't called the cops ?? Well, I guess at this point you won't. Also, you and he both need to take an HIV test. Then, I'd make an appointment to see an attorney to start divorce proceedings.
If this is all it takes to get him mad and go have unprotected sex with probably a stranger - just imagine what's next.
2007-03-08 11:27:58 · answer #5 · answered by Bianca 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, press charges. If he hits you again, which he probably will if you don't leave, press charges again. And, find a lawyer so you can start working on a divorce. You're in a dangerous situation and at risk for STD's, so get out as soon as you can.
2007-03-08 11:26:17 · answer #6 · answered by karen p 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should stop posting things that aren't true. I'm sure that you're old enough to know what to do if any of this was true. If the man really put his hands on you, I'm sure you would've called the police, or waited until he was sleep and beat him with the first thing you could get your hands on. If he slept with another woman and you knew this to be true you wouldn't still be at home. You'd be sitting in a lawyers office seeing what you could get from him. So what you should do is get a life.
2007-03-08 11:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
leave it will only get worse. I know it is easier said than done but just think of the future do you really want to hide the bruises and make excuses for the bastard ?
2007-03-08 11:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by CYNTHIA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he already proved he can get another woman.
I suggest you phone the cops and have him arrested for assault. Call a lawyer. Don't look back.
2007-03-08 11:24:30 · answer #9 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't even know why you're asking this question. What's there to think about??? This is exactly the way he's going to behave in the future!!! Do you really want this for yourself??? Leave his sorry ***!!!
2007-03-08 11:36:01 · answer #10 · answered by schnipps 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋