When I moved to San Diego four years ago for school I thought it was an awesome place (excluding the cost of real estate of course). But the longer I am here the more unsettled I feel. It feels like there is no root here. Does anybody else feel this way or can anybody else describe this?
2007-03-08 03:19:43 · 4 answers · asked by no need for a name 3 in Travel ➔ United States ➔ San Diego
Yes! I can't explain it either. It could be the "coming and going" as the other people are saying, but I was unsettled even in my 2nd year here. I didn't live in a student filled area, with people constantly coming and going. I wasn't old enough yet to have friends graduate and leave. I think it id just the fact that the Cali people have such differnet values than the people I chose to be friends with back home. It is probably just that I havent established strong rooted friendships here (if you have solid friendships, it might be harder to explain). It's so strange because there is really no reason not to be happy here: the sun always shines, there is always somewhere to go, there is usually something to do.... But I feel the same way
2007-03-10 15:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by chickbeepink 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you live in a studenty area? A lot of students live on campus, but if you live where a lot of other students live, like Pacific Beach, it can still feel sort of that way. If so, probably there is a lot of coming and going. Most of the people who lived here 4 years ago, when you came, have probably graduated and left already, or will be soon.
Maybe it's getting to be time for you to move on, but if you want to stay, there are some places where people stay more than others. Mira Mesa, Santee, Escondido...I know housing is expensive, but most people who want to stay end up buying. Living in apartments isn't as committing.
2007-03-09 01:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by Plain and Simple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be you are experiancing that kind of awkard transition from college to the real world. When I graduated UCSD in 2005 some of my friends moved back home, some stayed then left after a year. Even though many people I know stayed down here and still live here, it was kind of hard seeing all these people who I became so close to leave. It was just different, not that I was lonely but it just felt like stuff was changing really quickly. Then having to go from being supported by my dad to working 40 hours/week and trying to support myself didn't exactly help either.
Also San Diego is a city full of transplants, very few people I know are actually from here. So it's kind of different, people here don't have those family and friend connections you might have back home. I know I miss being around my family and friends up in the SF Bay Area a lot, but I also like SD a lot so I choose to stay here.
I don't know if a lot of your college friends have left but i know that can happen with groups, luckily I still had many people that stayed but it's a much smaller circle of friends that what I had in college. You might just need to meet some new people, which I feel like I should do too to expand my circle of friends down here.
San Diego is such a transiet city, people are always coming and going it seems and it's full of people from all over the place, which is good in a way but also bad. People don't really have roots here but many people make roots after being here for a while.
That's kind of how I felt after moving down here from the Bay Area and going to UCSD for 4 years. I graduated almost 2 years ago and after going through that quarter life crises of transitioning from college to the real world I made the best of things and am happy here. SD is a great place to live but it's also depends on what you make of it.
2007-03-08 18:20:16 · answer #3 · answered by Sav 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you are home sick. Did you ever consider going home?
2007-03-08 20:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by ttpawpaw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋