wife wants controls of me from my daughter I have from a prior marriage i had in another state. wants to come with me without me telling my daughter and ex -wife she coming. My daughter is 7 y/o and i had to be at her last basketball game of the season. she wanted me not to go without her, but she changed her mind about going because i asked why I had to withold info about her coming with me. she get mad, I told her i wanted her to go, but she refused and then tell me I should go and be at my daughter's game. I went I asked her its okay 17 times. she its okay I get back. she said i disrespected by going to the game. she feel like she being played. she afraid of my ex-wife of us being together. I stay in the state for 14 hours. got there @ 9am and left @9:30 pm with my daughter which the last visit I had with her is 6 months ago. i spend more with her three kids I do mine own. what is thoughts on this. i ready call it quits on her.
2007-03-08 03:14:28 · 14 answers · asked by newyorkerhpd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry, that is just WRONG! She has no right to tell you when you can and can't see your little girl. She is playing games with you and you should sit down and tell her that you love her very much, but you also love your daughter. Ask her to put herself in your shoes? How would she feel if she couldn't see her own children and when she wanted to, you gave her nothing but grief?
Don't call it quits yet, give her a chance first, and let her know you will NOT stop seeing your daughter.
2007-03-08 03:19:05 · answer #1 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right. She was wrong to want you to be deceitful about her joining you. The only reason to not tell your ex-wife and daughter is if she is playing games, and not the fun kind.
It sounds like your new wife has some self-esteem problems, which are being shows as a lack of trust.
I wouldn't divorce her over it, but you should have an honest talk with her. If she can't be honest about it, try again to have an honest talk with her later. Keep trying until she can communicate or you are done trying to help her.
2007-03-08 03:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds very selfish and jealous. And it also sounds like she is disrespecting not only you but your daughter as well. She should not expect you to give up the quality time that you have to spend with your daughter because she does not trust or have faith in you. You are going out there to spend some time with your daughter not your ex. If you had still wanted to be together with your ex you would be and her and her three children would have never been involved in your life to begin with. Right?
2007-03-12 04:04:35 · answer #3 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your daughter has a game, you go and support her. Your new wife should come along, but if she doesn't want to go, that's her choice. You have nothing to explain to the new wife. Your daughter needs & deserves the time, love, and and support of her Dad. Your new wife was well aware of you having a daughter when she married you and "signed up for that program," so she has to get over it, or "get on down the road."
2007-03-08 03:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife has no right to make you choose between her and your daughter! That is your child no matter who you marry and always will be! It sounds like your wife has some jealousy/ trust issues that she needs to deal with. If you are a real man you will stand up to her and let her know that you have a commitment to your daughter and that if she has any love and respect for you she will have admiration and pride that her husband takes care of his responsibilities! If not, let her know that your daughter is part of you and if she can't respect your daughter then she doesn't respect you and in a relationship without respect than there is nothing!
2007-03-08 03:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki Cee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your wife is trying to control you. She feels insecure when you get together with you ex-wife and your daughter. That means she loves you and does not want to lose you. What she needs from you is reassurance of your love toward her and promises that you will never leave her. She does not even know whether she should go to the basketball or not.
2007-03-08 03:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with wife and tell her that your daughter is top prority up front and then tell her you'll do what right for her even before her kids.
Tell her a united front is okey but you wont be played by her anymore and if she doest like that tell her where the front door is.
This is called passive aggression and she thinks she can control you by making you feel guilty.
Tell her it wont play out the way she thinks it will.
2007-03-08 03:27:44 · answer #7 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set some floor regulations formerly you permit her circulate in back. do no longer go overboard yet get an contract on the subject of the traditional issues like a glass of wine and so on. tell her civilly yet firmly which you resent her controlling tactics and if she does not end then you particularly won't have any different way different than to record for a divorce and seek for custody of your babies. it may help. attempt to be an equivalent better half on your marriage for a metamorphosis.
2016-09-30 09:33:48 · answer #8 · answered by gizzi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that this is your DAUGHTER that you are talking about here... Just be straight up and let her know that if you wanted to be with your ex, you would. She shouldnt try to take away time with you and ur child ..that is just selfish.. You spend a load of time with her children.. I would just sit down and explain to her that she is being irrational.
2007-03-08 03:19:49 · answer #9 · answered by sweetcheeks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is acting like a spoil little girl. You need to let her know that there is no competition between her and a 7 year old. If she can't be more reasonable you will have to leave. Bet she straightens out and if not GO!!!!!
2007-03-08 03:20:11 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋