How can we get teenagers to avoid intercourse?

Answer 1

Teach them the negatives and positives related with sex. If they choose to have sex, it will be an informed choice, and their own decision.

Telling your children how to think is the most pretentious, megalomaniacal thing you can do. Children have the right to think what they want to think. As a parent, you're only there to teach them and guide them. Not control them.

Their choices are theirs. Making sure those choices are informed is where you come in.

Answer 2

In the old days, there were three main obstacles to sexuality: 1) Fear of pregnancy; 2) Fear of disease; and 3) Fear of ostracism (being considered immoral. Even so, there was apparently much more sexual activity than people admitted. Studies have shown very high percentages of women who were pregnant at the time they were married, for example. Even back to the colonial era, some communities had pregnancy rates as high as 30 percent (as demonstrated by the the number of months following the marriage that the woman gave birth.)

In any event, pregnancy can now be controlled and STD's can be limited (and with the notable exception of HIV, generally cured). And our entire society has become sexualized, so it is only to be expected that teenagers will as well. Slinky models are shown in car ads, TV shows have unmarried characters with active sex lives, and music, news and popular culture all endorse a vigorous sex life.

In other words, the toothpaste cannot be put back in the tube, and it is just not realistic to expect kids to AVOID intercourse. All we can do at this point is to educate them on their responsibilities and hope that they will delay intercourse for as long as possible. My daughter has reached 18 without being sexually active. That's an achievement. But she is in college now, and I cannot imagine that she will continue to avoid the sexual pressures indefinitely. All I can hope at this point is that she will make good choices when the time comes.

Good luck!!

Answer 3

Too many years the young parents have avoided the sexual teaching of their children and leaving it up to the schools. This, as I have always professed should be taught in the home by the loving parent or parents. Be open with your children as a guardian, parent and teacher when their young ( infancy up), not as a disciplinary in their teens. To me discipline is love. Love is teaching your off spring respect for ones self and others.

Answer 4

I'm with RP. Let them see the consequences of the action...both by exposing them to young parents, and keeping lots of literature available about STD's. If you're asking more from a community standpoint than a parenting one, I think it's definitely important to put more public emphasis (through radio, tv, demographic targeted magazines, etc..) on abstinence and make info about STDs much more publicly available...the ones who think pregnancy will never happen to them may still think twice when seeing some pictures of bad chlamydia infections..

There'll always be the ones to make bad decisions, but I think the more info is out there, the more kids will actively choose the best paths for themselves.

Answer 5

well have a son and a daughter, no babies from either of them and they are almost 19 and almost 18............

The boy was always taught that he better be very careful with ANY female he lays with as that could be a 18 year commitment..so he sure better like her enough that SHOULD something go wrong he WILL have to deal with her for a very long time.

The girl was taught that UNLESS you respect your self and your body no one else will, your body is NOT a lucky bag to be given away to every little ****...............

Also taught them that no matter what they would be loved, so...............so far so good...............also made damm sure that they know that the stuff they can catch is NOT like it was back in my time of "you get a jab in the butt" and all is good, now days you DIE from it.......and trust me no bonk is worth dying for............

As for avoiding it well dont think that is possible, I was glad I got it delayed as long as I did with my son and my daughter is now getting to the stage that its pretty much gonna happen when she feels it is right.

Answer 6

It must first come from home. Unfortunately, parents don't take their time anymore to teach their children proper sex education. Most parents that I know are so out of touch with their kids, and rely on the school system to do it for them.

Answer 7

Tell them from the time that they learn about sex to the time they leave the house that it isn't safe outside of marriage. It's true that 1 out of 4 people have a sexually transmitted disease and that's because so many teens are thinking that it's okay to sleep with any one. Save sex for marriage. You need to tell your kids that it's not safe and it's also an easy way to get yourself or some one else pregnant. Over 1 million teens are pregnant and over 340,000 will get an abortion this school year alone. I'm not lying about these statistics either. We need to tell are kids that it's not safe and to never throw caution to the wind.

Answer 8

Avoid.....? I would rather educate them and let them make their own decisions. There are too many teenagers who are so misinformed on the fundamentals of sexual reproduction it is scary....

Answer 9

wel there is no way to avoid that, obviously you can't prohibit it.... the only thing you can do is talk to them about it, let them know whey they should wait until they find the right person, that they need to be older because it takes responsibilities they can't take at that age...... talk to them about pregnancy, about STDs.... about contraception, give them all the information they need.... then... just expect you were clear enough not to encourage them to do it......... the rest is their own judgement and will.

Answer 10

By telling us the flaws of having sex, at such a young age. We need to monuagomous and celibet. Sex should be saved for marriage, and thats it period. I will be honest me being 16 and a virgen is hard temptation is out their, but i plan to stay a virgen until marrigage.