Am I wrong To Feel this Way?

Question

My Husband Cheated On me and in the process got some one pregnant. Come to find out that she new that he was married and was not going to leave me. so she got pregnant on purpose so that he would leave me. But he don't want her or the baby and he said he want a blood test. I told him that if the baby is his to sign over his rights and he said okay. I Feel this way because if deals with the baby haves to deal with the mother and I don't want him to.

Answer 1

I understand why you fell this way but the child is innocent in all this-No matter how you fell about it that child may be his and one day may still show up on your door step-plus your husband may resent you from letting him do the right thing by this kid. The child deserves to have a father- it doesnt have to be a bad thing you have to forgive in your heart and maybe eventually learn to get along-its not ideal but you would be doing the right thing-

Answer 2

I don't know that I necessarily agree with that. I understand that you are hurt and do not want your husband involved with this woman to any extent, but that is not the baby's fault and that baby is an innocent life that should not be punished for a mistake your husband made or some crazy woman. Your husband has to take responsibility for his actions! Should that child grow up feeling like his father didn't love him enough because his mother didn't know how to find her own man? I know that this must be a difficult thing for you, but try to think of that child, who did not ask for any of this!

Answer 3

First of all, stop being selfish. You have no right to ask him to sign over his rights if he is the father. No child should have to grow up without knowing their father. This is not about you, your husband, or the lady he cheated with. This is about the BABY. The baby has done nothing wrong here and should not have to suffer because you don't want its father to have to deal with the mother. I think it is VERY HORRIBLE to feel this way.

Answer 4

Your husband is in a world of hurt now. He can sign away his rights to the child. Then he won't have the right to visit. The right to discipline. The right to input on schools or clothes or dentists. But he can't sign away the responsibility to the child. Which means that if the mom is entitled to child support the court will order it and he won't have any say in the matter.

Answer 5

Yes, you are completely wrong. It is not the childs fault and the child should not have to be emotionally for its fathers reckless ways. It is your husbands dutie to be a good father and be active in this childs life. The problem with society today is that fathers are not involved with their children, please do not let another child be mistreated. I hope your husband grows up and honors your mairage from now on, but if he doesn't, that is niether the childs fault nor the other womans, IT IS HIS!!!!

Answer 6

It's not the mother of the baby you should be worried about, it's your husband. If he strayed once he will do it again. Wake up girlfriend, you are married to a loser. Hubby is the one you should be mad at. He slept with another woman!! Don't sink to his level by putting up with this behavior. This is something as a wife you shouldn't even have to worry about.

Answer 7

Yes you are wrong. If he turns out to be the father, it's his child. Although it may not have been conceived in the best way, he still had his part in making it.

BTW, the only way he can give up rights is if she gets married and her husband is willing to adopt. Get ready for the child support payments.

Answer 8

I agree with you, she sounds like big time trouble. If he signs over his rights she can deal with her own trickery. Now your problem is him.... Can you ever trust him again and why should you. Better think long and hard on this.