What the heck are you women looking for in a man?

Question

Tell the truth, don't simple say,'A nice guy.' Its an insult, because the majority of women I know seem to have a thing for assholes. What do you gals want? Really want? Really? I'm a nice guy, I'm goodlooking, good personality. I go out to bars to have a nice time, not drink and fight. Yet is is these latter, angry men who get the women. Why? WHAT DO YOU ALL WANT IN A MAN???

Answer 1

1. Intelligence. If he can't keep up with me in conversation, I won't give him a second look.
2. Self-assurance. I don't need a mess to clean up. I don't mind someone leaning on me for support, but I don't want someone who is needy.
3. Ambition. I won't date a man who doesn't know what he wants out of life and actively seeks it out. Too many guys are content to sit on their mama's couch and play Playstation all day. No thanks.
4. Honesty, as in the ability to be honest with yourself, not living in a fantasy world. I like realistic people, and people that are self-analytical.
5. Imaginative. Creative with solutions to problems, and creative in the bedroom, not afraid to try some roleplaying.
6. Dominant--someone who can stand up to me.
7. Self-controlled-- someone that can hold back, can control himself, who cannot be manipulated easily.

Answer 2

It is true (sadly) that many women are attracted to men that mistreat them, act like idiots and are unreliable. However, maybe it is what you are looking for in a women that is causing your problems. In my humble opinion, many good and nice men are attracted the make up and make out type women that frequent places like bars and clubs, drink too much and enjoy the company of the "bad boy". Try looking what you are attracted to a women and see if it is really what is best for you. There are many physically beautiful and emotional beautiful women out there who are looking for the "nice guy".

Answer 3

Someone who will actively communicate with me, who treats me with respect, who will help cook with me, and someone who is sober. I totally HATE it when men have to drink to have a good time. Not all angry men get the women. My father is one of the disfunctional and anger-driven men I know. He only gets out on one date with most women. Most women don't think he's all that great.

I think it's the macho thing that gets some women. I know I sometimes really like the manly man, it's the sex drive. But as women grow older, they want the guy that treats them real nice and who likes to do quiet things and be friends with them.

Answer 4

A guy who isnt a LIAR! Why do so many guys LIE???? And ya'll suck at it! Angry men get the women? What class of women are we talking about here? OK, here's what a girl REALLY wants.

A guy who is independent( financially AND emotionally)
A guy who is nice and has a heart( not just a heartbeat)
A guy who can appreciate and respect our views
And most importantly....now write this down...
A GUY WHO ISN'T A LI LI LI LIAR!!! ;)

You're a doll to even ask this question. Most guys are too insecure to care. Thanks for caring!;)

Answer 5

"Bar girls" will go for the worst man because they have low self-esteem. Since you too are looking 4 luv in all the wrong places, you too probably suffer from low self esteem and have a twisted conception of your worth and what you truely want.

Also, men seem to go 4 looks only. Playboy did a spoof on this. They made past cover girls into "Ugly Betties" and then sent them to gym's, supermarkets, and bar's. In all cases, they were ignored and rejected by men --- which freaked 'em out 'cas after all they ARE PLAYBOY BUNNIES (just dressed down).

Answer 6

I can't speak for other women, but I know exactly what I look for. I need a very gentle man who is kind, but not weak. I need him to be able to control his anger and be generally upbeat and not under constant stress. I want a man who IS a man, but is sensitive and loving. I would want him to be able to look after himself well. I need him to be strong emotionally and stable. I need him to understand what the important things are in life - the people you love - not "things".

I don't want a man who acts like a woman though. I like a guy who can build and fix things - who is intelligent and a leader. I need him to be smart about money, but not stingy. He should have goals and a plan for life.

Most of all though, I want a man that I can trust completely without any worrying what he might be doing behind my back. I want to be able to love without reservation and to be able to express that fully without worrying if he is fully committed to me or deciding whether to stay or leave. Some people are always looking for greener pastures and would rather leave a relationship than work on any issues that come up.

When I love, I love fully without an alternate plan. I EXPECT that it will be lovely and fullfilling because I know that I would do anything to make him happy. I need that for myself as well. I want the old-fashioned kind of relationship with respect and fidelity. I want to know that if I needed to, I could lean hard on him and he would be there for me no matter what. If I were sick and dying, would he take care of me and still love me until the end? I can do that and I want that feeling of security too.

Sure, I'd like him to be good looking and sexy, but when you love someone, you love all of them and they become everything in your eyes.

Answer 7

Someone who looks at me like I'm the only girl in the world

Answer 8

me? i want a guy whos tough...but not too rough.
a guy whos got ruggard looks but is also clean cut.
a sensitive guy who is kind and loving
caring and cute
yea...i no im picky .... but i just can't decide

Answer 9

Start acting like a buthole and you'll get your women. Sorry, but that's the way it is.