Is she a Junkie because of me?

Question

I had a friend in high school, we'll call her Jenny... She went to church, loved Jesus, and always tried to stand up for what was right. I would poke fun, in a playful way... or so I thought, of things she would say. Such as "Don't say anything in front of me you wouldn't say in front of Jesus.".. Anyway. ended up coaxing her into going to a Manson concert, gave her some crushed up Midol and told her it was X. She hasn't been the same sense. Mean, but MAN it was funny. Anyway.. Now she's attempting to be strung out on meth. I say attempting beause she doesn't have the money to do it as often as she'd like, and she's not hooked enough to go shooting old ladies for their handbags yet. I just feel somewhat responsible for her downfall, then again I feel like everyone knows right from wrong and her choosing the wrong was her own choice and I may have had nothing at all to do with it.

Answer 1

Although you may of gave her the first taste in the end it was her weakness. I've seen it before and to be honest some people have natural addicitive personnalities. It's a sad story and I hope your friend gets the help she needs oneday. In the end as an adult she is responsible for her own destiny.

Answer 2

Who cares who's fault it is, people?!? Get her help now! Go to her school counselor, youth pastor, parents...someone! Meth is BAD stuff. You become addicted quickly, and go down hill really fast. my husband is a corrections officer and dealt with methheads on a regular basis when he worked at the county jail. the progression from seemingly normal to hardly able to function as a human being is rapid. the damage it does to the brain (forget the rest of the body) is similar to very severe parkinson's. there is no way to fix the damage once it is done!

to answer your question if its your fault... you didn't force her to take the fake drugs, or buy the real ones. do you maybe need to take a look at who you are and what kind of person takes pleasure in trying to drag people down- i'd say so.

you're not responsible for her choices, but you are responsible for yours. are you going to have the guts (and the heart) to get her to some help?

Answer 3

No matter what you did(although it may have been wrong) It is never anyone else's fault someone uses. Unless you had her tied up shoving drugs down her throat you shouldn't be so hard on yourself . Hope she gets the help she needs

Answer 4

Yeah I agree that it was wrong for you to do that but I wouldn't say that you are responsible for how she is today. My opinion is that she has some other things going on and it sounds like depression to me. Advise her to get help. God Bless!

Answer 5

Well no offense but i think a real friend wouldnt put their friend on to negative stuff...sometimes are friends look up to us...maybe she looked up to you, and in a way you influenced her...we are who we hang around...and if not we become are surroundings...but your right she has her own mind and should have made her own decisions but some ppl make their own decisions and some follow. Thats why i try to surround myself around positive energies and if someone is doing something thats not quite like me i wouldnt hang around them as much just so what ever energy they are wont rub off on me....but hey she has her own mind...but as a real friend its our duty to show positive things to are friend...

Answer 6

I don't think that you should feel that you have that much power over someone else, and the only thing you can do is learn from your own mistake.
:-)

Answer 7

yes and no it is your fault to do it and no it is her fault for doing it.