Why does this keep happening to me??It seems that I can't get a break!?

Question

I was just in an abusive relationship and was raped constintly and i jsut got a divorce and now i was just raped a total stranger. I have 2 beutiful daughters and would just hate too see this happen to them. Im catholic and im trying to leave it up to God but this hasen't been working. Im now on the pill but i have to go off because of my religion. I love mmy kids to death but i just can't keep up like this. I have just moved away and im trying too keep my kids away from their father. HELP !!!!

Answer 1

You need some professional help, first off!! Since you are speaking of religion, I am assuming that you are religious (catholic), not spiritual. So you should be aware that GOD does not make mistakes and things happen for a reason. It may not seem like a good reason now, but its not for you to understand that part of it. Just ride it out, get some help, continue to focus on your daugthers and just living life. GOD works on HIS time, not YOURS...rememer that. As for keeping your children away from their father, well that is something that will have to be decided in court. You need to get a restraining order in place that will cover the children as well. And work with the courts to get sole custody of them, if you are that afraid for them to see him....also make his *** pay for them.

Abusive relationships are the hardest to get out off and have the longest back lash. I, too, was in an abusive relationship...mentally, emotionall, physically, but once I got out of it and did all my crying and praying, I felt so much better and was mentally ready to see a future for me. Then what I did was focused on work, school and my son for about 3 years now....just getting to know myself again. I have learned so much about myself and now know what I will and will not tolertate in a relationship. Now I am dating a guy and I am able to walk right into it and tell him exactly what I want. And things are going well. Just remember, never give up on GOD, he is always there, even the times it does not seem like it....he is listening. And I am not trying to be all religious (I am a spiritual person), but I was trying to speak to you on your terms...feel me? Good Luck!!

Answer 2

first off u need some kind of bc u can still follow your religion no one follows it 100% not even the priests hence the altar boys) so wait a few moths clear your head move and stay as far from your ex as possible get an alarm system and a new bf after a few months don't meet him in a club or a bar try someone from work or your kids school like a divorced father or meet someone from a friend just don't bring the guy around your kids until u have been together 6mos. good luck

Answer 3

you dont have to go through with it alone there are support groups for women who give emotional and financial assistance. Theres also your church, go 2 a confession and tell the priest your problem they wont tell anyone or go 2 a phycologist they can help you work out the right way to fix a problem. just trust me make a big effort and god will do the rest. Relly on friends and family and get connected with them again since abusive relationships tend to cause rifts among ppl and their friends and family.

If the kids father wants the kids fight him on it tell the police about the abuse etc. Teach your daughters about self respect, the patterns in men that show that they can be violent, teach them morals and values, educate them since none can take education away from you once u have it, tell them about your experience, make sure they have a loving home and safe one, be there for them talk about everything from school to wateva because if they feel like they can talk 2 u about the small stuff then they will eventually be able to confide in you. also make a strong support system around you of friends, neighbours and family.

i hope i helped or at least gave you something to think about. i honestly hope your situation gets better. cya

Answer 4

Get a restraining order on this uy. You dont want a guy like this around ur young daughters. He obviousley gets a kick out of causing a woman pain so can u imagin what he would do to ur daughters. Go get tested for any std's u might have gotten from either man and stay on the pill.

Answer 5

Call the cops. Ask what you can do. Noone on here can help you unless you tell us the state. As every state has different laws about restraining orders and jailtime. You can goto the local station, explain what is happening, and if you are not home, have someone (A MALE) that you trust, stay at home with the kids while you are out.
If you live near rochester new york you can msg me on here. I know alot of services [e-mail]

Answer 6

We as women always wonder why this is happening or what did I do but honestly there's no real answer. As far as the rape is concerned take up self defense classes, get you a registered handgun and learn how to use it.But please don't turn into one of those over bearing mamas who overprotects her girls to keep them from going down that road. Get a temporary protective order against your ex and if this grand ol judicial system of ours say he has a right to see his kids push for supervised visits and take a friend or have a officer go with you to drop them off and pick them up.Keep praying

Answer 7

Please tell me you're kidding. The horror that you've survived is more than anyone should ever have to endure in ten lifetimes, let alone one! You CANNOT let some beast get away with raping you, I can only imagine your pain and the stigma that is attached with being a rape victim, but I implore you, PLEASE go to the cops and get justice. Stay away from dating from now, because you may be unconsciously attracting these animals with your body language (but it's NOT your fault that you got raped!) I will pray for you but please protect your daughters and yourself, join a support group, and learn some self-defense/karate. I hope I have been of some help.

Answer 8

First thing you need to do is this, get yourself together. That will help you alot. See, it's so difficult to go through this but you need to understand this is not your fault, you didn't asked to be raped, but it just happened and you don't want that to happen again so look into yourself and feel this that you are safe from now on and always pray to God to safeguard you where ever you are going. You are brave to post this here and that means you are strong, so now use this inner strength that you have to heal and bless yourself. Be bless.

Answer 9

Not your fault. Rape is about power and control. Not about the actual sex. So they say....

Hmmm..Are there Raped Women groups or something you can go and talk things out?

You need to get your self-esteem to normal levels and live fully knowing that you don't deserve to be raped. Be proactive by choosing where you go and who you associate with. Abusive people are easy to spot... if you get those hairs on the back of your neck standing up...get going, move on, and don't get raped.

Use your senses

Answer 10

The Catholic religion is very outdated stay on the pill move to a safer neighborhood and get tested for AIDS