Okay, my husband and I have been married for eight months and dated before then for more than four years. It seems like when we got married, his "drive" plummeted while mine skyrocketed. I can't help it i find him even more attractive now! I am a good wife to him, but I am so tired of wanting to be intimate more than him. He brushes me off like it is nothing. But, when he wants it, omg you betta just stop what you are doing right then. It's good when we are intimate, really really good. However, I'm living with a man who is satisfied with it once or twice a week, while i could do it every day! But I would be satisfied with 3 or 4 times a week. I have tried to spice it up, but if he is not in the mood, i might as well forget it. But he doesn't understand if I'm not in the mood when he is. I don't want to climax by myself, i want to be with my husband. Both of us are young, healthy and in our 20's with no children and none on the way. Please help!
2007-03-08 02:44:30 · 10 answers · asked by Carolinagurl00 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off you need an date night!
then you need a romance night!
Bot have a purpose and can help out in the sex department.
date night is what you both make of it, so enjoy it for what it is and watch fireworks go!
Romance night is a bit diffrent you turn off telephone, tv, anything that distracts you from husband , and he you.
then tell him what your inermost desires are and tell him it's time to play!
then have sex at least on other time a week, but never in same place!
2007-03-08 02:56:24 · answer #1 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he equated dating with sex but, didn't equate marriage with sex. Maybe he thought that part of "landing" his companion and in courting was lots of sex.
Better tell him that keeping his wife happy is a continual task and same as in dating. That piece of paper means a lot, and so do the rings, but, the marriage part also means to continue doing what both were doing when dating,....but, more so.
That's why people get married. Because they liked what chemistry and love making, and harmony was going on before which led to......"hey let's make this legal and binding, cause we have a good thing here"!
Better tell him that he needs to be the same person he was 9 months ago. He must have some notion that men need to be different like their Dads and Grandpappys when they get married and just mow the lawn and read the paper.
Tell him to use it before he loses it. His prime is now, and 20 years from now, he won't be the same man unless he keeps the idea and enjoyment of you alive.
Save Willy!
2007-03-08 11:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by The Sylvan Wizard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whew! Here we go with the tough one; First of all, I could not imagine what would be his problem in this nature unless he is not over the shock of new responsibilities in his life. He may be experiencing stress from this all new thing going on in his life and ya'll need to talk about it. And soon too before these needs of yours wander outside of your present relationship. Take the time to express your needs to him and listen to him too. Honesty is the best policy here and you both have to come up to listen to each other and talk to each other. This is one of the hardest things to do in a new relationship like yours. If you can not resolve this on your on then seek counsel. This will not go away on its on. You nave to nurture it and work with it and it is very delicate. Good luck to you now and I hope it works out for the best! It will not be easy but you can do it!
2007-03-08 10:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by oskkid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is an age old problem. There are a lot of women who have a strong drive. there needs to be some way that the two of you can discuss this. you're very good with the written word, so write your thoughts down and let him read them. he may still be unable to express his own thoughts, but at least he'll be able to better understand yours.
2007-03-08 10:59:30 · answer #4 · answered by Handy man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on the man.. If you were married to me you wouldn't have that problem. Not trying to be a jerk. I'm just saying..when I was in my 20's, and now in my 30's...the drive just keeps going up. Something wrong with him?
Is he doing it with someone else? Is he taking care of himself (you know what I mean)?
2007-03-08 10:53:03 · answer #5 · answered by RUNINTLKT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens. All relationships have ups and downs in the bedroom. Can't stay on that high all the time. Doesn't mean he doesn't love you.
2007-03-08 10:52:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe that's the turnoff for him, the fact that you want it all of the time. Occupy yourself with something so that you are not thinking of sex everyday.
2007-03-08 10:49:55 · answer #7 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way now is for you to tell him about this yourself.
2007-03-08 10:54:41 · answer #8 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl I have the exact same problem not much u can do it is what it is
2007-03-08 10:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be boring
2007-03-08 10:54:51 · answer #10 · answered by andrew a 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋