2007-03-08 02:41:33 · 33 answers · asked by More-Love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, it's likely to cause a full scale argument, but hey done put up with that!! just think if its not you who is it!!
I wouldnt tell everyone else before you speak to the person in question who's partner etc is playing up, maybe speak to another close relative, and voice your concerns as it's possible he may be doing it to them to.
I really hope you ahve the courage to confront this awful man and let his partner know what he is like, she may not want to hear it, but trust me she will never forget it, and she will tell him, so he will stop!
Good luck with this PIG!!!
2007-03-08 02:46:31 · answer #1 · answered by sarah n 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the age of the person being harassed...I'm an adult so this is how I would handle it....
First of all, I would talk to the person who is doing the harassing....making it strong and clear that I don't intend to put up with it.
If that's not enough of a deterent, I would then tell the close family member....
If the person being harassed is not an adult, then go straight to the family member and let it be known A.S.A.P.
You asked for an opinion on how others would deal with it so please remember, this is what I would do....I'm in no way suggesting you or anyone else should handle it the same way.
2007-03-08 02:59:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you must. Don't tolerate this sort of behaviour from anyone. Secrecy & the act of keeping silent is a breeding ground for abuse & sexual harassment, if you get it out in the open then the perpertrators will be exposed & it can't continue to happen. A similar thing happened to me & I kept silent. I wish I hadn't as I suffered for years. If I knew what I know now, I would have spoken up immediately.
2007-03-08 03:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. If you don't tell them they could be the next person hurt or abused. Also, that person that did this to you should be punished by the law. I know from personal experience with my girlfriend. She was raped by an uncle who had been harrassing her for years and never said a thing to anyone out of fear. She had a very tough time with her ability to become intimate afterwards and we worked with a therapist for years before she could trust me or anyone else again. Keeping these things quiet can cause irreversible mental damage and can also lead to low self esteem on the victims' part. If you keep quiet about this, then who will be next? You need help and so do the other parties involved.
2007-03-08 02:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by Alchemist 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First start by asking them to stop! Let them know they are making you uncomfortable, and that it's inappropriate behavior! If he persists, ABSOLUTELY tell! Be prepared for denial, and irritation, and also be prepared to give details as to where and when and what was said. Also, there may be confrontation, with the harasser, be ready, have ammo. Know things that you shouldn't know about him so his wife will know it came from him. Honesty is the best policy, and if it were your hubby, you'd want to be told. Just remember they will be hurt and upset, maybe even with you but stand firm that they are very important to you, and you would never have said anything if it wasn't happening and if they would have stopped when asked. Tell her she deserves better. Wow, touchy subject......hope it works out best for you since your the actual victim. Good Luck!
2007-03-08 02:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by Green eyed girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh dear well what i would do is trap the person doing this to you by recording him by tape or mp3 players that has record on it he would think your listening to music or stopping the tape disc get proof, then when he does it again make a copy of the first assult then play it back to him then tell him if he carries on you will give the recording to his wife ect, also tell him that you have a video tape evidence of him say to him that you put up very small hidden web cams around the house to trap him doing this. If he carried on i would report him to the police make a evidence case agaist him you must seiously scare him.
2007-03-08 19:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by vwd2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If any man is sexually harrassing you then you need to tell someone about it. If I were you I would tell this member of the family that their spouse is making you feel uncomfortable. Chances are if he is doing this he is probably cheating anyway.
2007-03-08 02:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by suzyalexisandgabe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i would tell because they would know the type of person there living with. it is not nice when person go behind ones back and sexually harasse some one if makes you feel uncomfortable. i would also let the person know who is doing it that you dont appreciate the disrespect.
2007-03-08 02:46:48 · answer #8 · answered by claudia w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-03-08 02:44:30 · answer #9 · answered by rastus7742 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not yet generally you won't be believed. Tape record these encounters, and get a few before saying anything.
Does he do it with everyone? is he just a flirt? or has he targeted you, alone?
If it's just you tape him, if there's no other problems, and he's a good guy other wise. Make a copy of the tape, give it to him and tell him he'd better chill out. or she'll get the tape next.
Hope this helps
2007-03-08 02:49:18 · answer #10 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋