How does one prepare for a divorce when you know the spouse is going to be really nasty and difficult? When the spouse doesn't want you to have anything even if you're entitled to it, when the spouse has no compassion towards the years you've spent together etc??? Any advice?
2007-03-08 02:40:53 · 11 answers · asked by JiminyCricket 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a good lawyer. Unfortunately for your spouse, it doesn't matter what he thinks you should have(unless you have signed a pre-nup), each state governs it's own family law and is pretty clear about what you can divide and what you are entitled to. Especially if you've spent a long period together(or he screwed around or beat you). I wouldn't worry about it so much legally as much as I would spiritually. You may think about joining a support group or just spending more time with friends that make you feel good. Your spirit will need it.
2007-03-08 03:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a lawyer-start a notebook and write EVERYTHING down-anytime you deal with your ex-any conversations antime and money is exchanged anything he does-write down dates and times it will help in court. it doesnt matter what HE thinks you are entitled to. Every state has its own guidelines. If he is filing he has to form a complaint and prove it-you have to answer it. The person who files usually pays more. Take it all in stride keep your chin up an make sure you cover all your bases-call a lawyer ASAP there are free ones in every state find out were the lega service offices are-you can find it by calling your local courthouse. good luck
2007-03-08 10:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by baseballlover 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you "know" he is going to be nasty? Maybe his lawyer is the one making him act that way (they do that to prolong the divorce and get more of your money)
Act like a first class lady and ask for only that which is rightfully yours. AND make sure you give him 50% custody of the child and collect no child support! Why let him divorce his child and walk away fancy free.
Don't act like 99.9% of the ex wives here that tell you to *uck him over!!!!! Those women are slow minded uneducated bitter women who have no class.
You have to remember you are really stuck to this man for the next 15 years, until your child turns 18.
2007-03-08 11:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i too thought my divorce was going to be a battle to the death but with a angel on my shoulder it wasn't.when planning for the mess however i first sat down with my kids and told them that nothing that happened between their dad and i had anything to do with them i reminded them that they were not the reason we were married so they couldn't be the reason we divorced.the next thing i hired a lawyer and she was wonderful she took this on like it was personal to her and she handled all the messy stuff so i could concentrate on the kids.then i told the truth and that meant i didn't try to make myself out to be Mary Poppins and dad into the monster under the bed.then i had to wait it out my ex was a cross country truck driver and wasn't easy to get served but we managed to get it all done and the day of court he didn't show up lol so it went fast and it was done.the thing is he will not want this to go on forever stand your ground on the child support don't let it go just to keep him from having a fit its not worth it.then be as flexible as you can with visitation the kids need their parents i am sure it will work out the courts will see to it good luck and stay strong
2007-03-08 11:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what state you live in, to start with as to the evidence that can be introduced.
But hire a good atty. try to find one with and investigator on staff, to start with because you'll have to have one now or later.
Get your last five yrs. taxes returns, personal and real estate papers.
Make a list of anything that was a gift to you and or inherited by you.
But, your atty. will go over all that.If you have kids that's a different ball game.
2007-03-08 11:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, hire a lawyer. Then let the lawyer deal with it. Try to go in autopilot mode so that it doesn't eat at you emotionally day in and day out. Just take that first step and consult with a lawyer. They will generally do a consultation at no charge. Then take each day one at a time. Good luck.
2007-03-08 10:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by amdstreit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire an attorney, then bring in any bank statements, financial records and anything else you can find. After that, it's time to count your losses and move on. That is what my fiance tells me all the time.
2007-03-08 12:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by sassynsweet1221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it as business and leave your emotions at the door. It's the only way you can get what you want. Do not break down in front of him, you can be equally as cold.
2007-03-08 10:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start saving money and looking for a new man.
2007-03-08 10:45:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ensure you have the best attny available!
2007-03-08 10:55:04 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋