I have a good friend (she's 25, I'm 22) - we have been good friends for the past 3 years.
Last spring, she filed for a divorce from her husband of 2 years, and it was finalzied this past October. However, in April of last year, leading up to her asking her busband for a divorce, she admitted to me that she had had feelings for me that went beyond those of just a friend, but she couldn't act on them because she was still married.
I had feelings for her as well, but haven't told her all this time.
To make a long story short, a moved away for 4 months from Sept. to December to attend a University, and I have recently moved back home to re-attend the community college we both go to.
However, she has been with a couple of guys during that time, and now has one that she swears is just "Great" in so many ways. I still haven't let her know my feelings for her. Should I tell her, or just move on with my life?
2007-03-08 02:35:14 · 6 answers · asked by racing_into_the_future 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes, unfortunately it is. If you feel that you have to tell her, then tell her. But here is the rub, you may not like what she has to say now. When she filed for divorce, she was looking for a friend, and she was looking for something then. Now that she is free, she has moved on with her life, but her feelings may still be there. Since you did not tell her before, she may not know that you have feelings for her. People move on with their lives, but their hearts remain open until they shut the door to possibilities. You will never know until you talk to her. There is nothing worse than having the "what if I had ....." kind of regret.
2007-03-08 02:46:09 · answer #1 · answered by stormzsecret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I would honestly let her know how you feel =) This can go two ways, either she'll realize her feelings for you again and the two of you can start something great, or she may still act on the person whom she is with . I don't think you have a lot to lose, it sounds like you'll have her as a friend probably no matter what. You can also move on at the same time, that way you can tell her and yet still keep your options open.
2007-03-08 02:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i would tell her. You waited a long time while she was married (which is the right thing to do), but now u don't want to give up that chance again. Tell her now before she ends up falling in love, and then it will be too late for u again. If nothing comes of it, then it wasn't meant to be, but at least u don't have to always wonder "what if"
2007-03-08 02:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, tell her.
At least then she can tell you whether or not she still feels the same.
If she does, you two can probably have a wonderful relationship, having been friends first.
If she doesn't, at least now you know. It would be at that point you should move on. -But not before you know how she feels, because you will forever wonder until you do.
2007-03-08 02:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by kdfirekat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to say this and i know how you feel . you need to tell her how you feel and see if you can talk to her alone and dont just get stuck with her. if she likes you back just go with her just look before you leap
2007-03-08 02:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO TELL HER HOW U FEEL BEFORE SHE STARTS TO GET TO SERIOUS WITH THIS ONE THAT IS SO GREAT!!! BESIDES, IF U DONT U PROBALBY WILL NEVER FORGIVE YOURSELF AND IT WILL ALWAYS BE HANGING OVER YOUR HEAD. TELL HER!!! BEFORE IT IS TO LATE... GOOD LUCK!!
2007-03-08 02:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by squeaky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋