he stopped for 5 months but has been smoking again for almost a year now. it is distrying our relationship and leading to volience towards me on his part. i do not know what to do anymore i have even offered to pay him to stop smoking.
2007-03-08 02:34:09 · 26 answers · asked by cuddersgirl05 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You make him make a choice, it's either pot or you, tell him it is as simple as that.
2007-03-08 02:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-17 01:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops on him and report the violence and/or pot smoking. He won't be sent away, but, he will get probation and be put on notice that another offense could lead to felonious time in Prison.
Drastic actions and irresponsibility deserve drastic results.
If you are more willing to put up with his smoking pot and violence towards you than you are in seeing him spend a night or few days in jail, then you aren't that serious and may deserve to stay in that situation. Either way, he's breaking the law on 2 counts.
If you don't want to bust him or stay,.....then leave. But, if you want the relationship, ......he needs some real sobering action taken against him.
His behavior will only get worse, and weed leads to other drugs more than not.
2007-03-08 02:51:16 · answer #3 · answered by The Sylvan Wizard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to be supportive with him and to him and make him realise that this past time can be replaced with a better one. Doing this will be very difficult because asking him or telling him to stop will not ast all be beneficial to either of you because he'll feel as though yor trying to control his actions. If you are in any way feeling as though this is a strain on your finances tell him it's hindering your progress in obtaining a better future for the whole and allow him to figure this out on his own about otherr areas that could benefit in your lives with the relief of his habit. He is only going to stop when he wants but the first three days are the only rough part and once this passes he will begin to enjoy the rest of your lives together.
2007-03-08 02:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by kendrick j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be a reason why now it really bothers you, you put up with it in the past, why not know? Maybe you are just looking for an excuse to be mad at him.
You can't change someone (even if you think it is for the better) they have to want to change. Can you think of something that would make him want to stop? Would he really care if you left and could you really do that just over pot?
2007-03-08 02:45:21 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't remove pot from his life, then you need to remove yourself from his life. Especially if he is becoming violent towards you, he will probably become even more violent as time goes on too. I know it is hard, but my mother had to do the same thing with my father. He wouldn't give up the drugs, even after she tried to get him to give them up. Eventually she left him, and a few years later met my step-dad. Moral of the story is, if you pack up and leave, he may stop to get you back and he might not. Either way, smoking pot is a deal breaker.
2007-03-08 02:43:36 · answer #6 · answered by bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get out of this relationship then. If he isn't listening to your requests and he's hurting you, then he's not worth staying with. He obviously isn't worried about you leaving because if he was he would of stopped smoking pot.
So give him the choice: pot or you.
If he throws a fit then leave and tell him you just made your choice.
He's not worth the problems or heartache girl. you deserve better then that.
2007-03-08 02:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by ice hcky rulz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you must do, so do it, leave him. Anyone who is violent in a relationship is not worth staying with no matter how much you or he loves you. It sounds like he is out of control and he will probably never stop with out seeing the consequences of his actions. If you leave him he might see the need to change and seek help.
2007-03-08 15:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by Lonely Bàstard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you quit nagging him. give up something in return.he quits weed you quit shopping. obviously you knew of this before you got married sounds like a cop out for you. I would get pissed if my wife told me to quit doing something I liked. Weed is sure alot better than drinking , at least he probably sits at home instead of in the bar . offer him something worth while.Example ; after 2 weeks of no smoking you'll wear lingere for him or do something sexy for him
2007-03-08 03:51:08 · answer #9 · answered by I race cars 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop for a second and see what you just said. 'leading to violence towards me' right there says you cant do this on your own. we cant help you here. talk to a therapist. get some form of help becuase he's not going to listen to you unless maybe he doenst realize that he's hurting you, in which case you have to point that out and show how serious it is. im sry that this stupid grass has ruined your husband, its really sad. good luck
2007-03-08 02:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by Gibs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont. It's a decision that only HE is able to make, and he needs to WANT to do that. Apparantly he does NOT.
It's YOU, you must think of......NOT him. You're situation will not improve until you leave him to his smoke, and be on your merry way. He's not worth throwing your life away. It will only progress to no where. Be strong......Good Luck!
2007-03-08 02:40:54 · answer #11 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋