Are you bothered by certain people who move closer and closer to you as they talk till they invade your space?

Question

And how do you handle that situation .

Answer 1

I don't have that problem....no one ever talks about the BENEFITS of chronic halitosis and a year round pariapism.

Answer 2

YES I AM! Personal space is a big deal, and in other cultures you are being very very disrespectful if you do not stand a certain distance away.

the way I handle the situation is someone starts moving closer, I start backing away, I put a barrier between me and the person. If they keep moving closer, I ask them wth they are doing, be blunt tell them you have space issues and that they are getting right in to your personal space, and unless they want their arms broke they better back off.

Answer 3

I took a class in supervision once that dealt with this very subject. Everyone has this invisible "circle" around them that is their comfort zone. My comfort zone might be very small ... you can get within six inches of me without me feeling threatened. Someone else's comfort zone literally might be three feet around them.

So those types of people don't bother me ... because my comfort zone *is* so small ... however, I try to be very careful not to tread into other people's space.

In my class, they taught that if it's bothering you, you should take a step back and use body language. Cross your arms ... that indicates that you aren't "open" for more intimate contact. It's like a virtual "barrier" you're putting up. You can also put an object between you ... like a desk or a chair ... something that is a *real* barrier.

Here's an article that may help:
http://www.csoonline.com/read/090104/briefing_etiquette.html

Answer 4

I hate that.

Recently I met someone assigned to jury duty like I was, and the judge had us wait in the foyer until they reviewed the cases for that day. After 20 minutes or so we got into casual conversation and he shared his tile-installing business card. That was his style, right in my space with strong smell of smoke.
I was looking for a tile installer but surely will not contact him.
No way I would have him in my house.
You ask how to handle the situation? Take a definite step back. Make it obvious. Smile.

Answer 5

Move closer to them. Try to touch their chest with yours, or brush up against them cheek to cheek. Make a game of it.

There's an old saying: "Give them what they want, and watch them choke on it."

Of course, if it's a girl, and she's hot, reach around and get a handful of that luxurious @ss. Squeeeeeeze it like there's no tomorrow. Excellent.

Answer 6

i am not a fan of the close talker. i tend to back away, and if that doesn't work, i find an object (like a counter, desk or bar) that i can put between me and the close talker. if that doesn't work, and there have been times that it didn't, as a last ditch effort i will actually place my hand on their chest or arm and hold them away from me, sometimes i even say "excuse me, you are getting too close." sadly, many close talkers do not realize they are doing this. some even have hearing issues.

Answer 7

yes, i'm extremely bothered by it.

whenever i'm put in a situation like that, i unusually tense up and turn a bright shade of red. then i'll start fidgeting while backing up, and finally just stutter out an excuse as to how i need the rest room.

Answer 8

I hate this type of people, although they don't do it on purpose, it's actually a habit, I'd handle the situation by telling them to back off!

Answer 9

Yes! I hate that!!
There's this guy at work who does this....well used to, until i reported him.
All i would do was take a step back each time he go too close, but one day i got tired of it. I was tired of acting like i didnt know what he was pretending not to know!

Answer 10

I back up, stiff arm them and say whoa...I have a definite 3ft personal zone around me. Only family, doctors,and nurses are allowed any closer.....makes me uncomfortable.