Our son's estranged wife will not let him have unsupervised access to his 3-month old baby daughter. Her reason is that he has no experience or ability to change or feed her and is incompetent. Since our son is an intelligent 36 year old man, but tends to be all thumbs due to inexperience, we wondered if there was anywhere close to Poole or Bournemouth where he could be shown in a patient way? If he had any sort of certificate, say from a trained nurse or professional, to prove his competence, then maybe things could progress as well as possible for him and our grand-daughter. Please help! We can't think of anything other than him practising on our bad-tempered cat. Not a good idea, unless we want to invoke the wrath of the RSPCA as well as our ex-daughter-in-law!
It seems so unfair, especially as her ex-husband has now moved back in with her, and regularly changes and feeds our grand-daughter.
Unfortunately, our son's ex's family are all in the legal profession!
2007-03-08 02:32:28 · 14 answers · asked by lizzyunderhill 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
First of all she cant deny him because he cant change a diaper...Get a doll and teach your son how to hold and change it.Or if you have a friend with a baby see if he can learn from them....He will get the hang of it.
2007-03-09 00:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by annie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like others have said, contact a local hospital. I know around here when I was pregnant with my son, the hospital offered a "Daddy Boot Camp". It was one Saturday where they were trained and shown how to change diapers, feed, hold and CPR (I think). After they graduate, they are given a certificate. I find it very sad that she will not let him spend any time with is Daughter (unsupervised or not). But if his name is on the birth certificate, he has rights, unless he has acted in a way towards the child that would prove he is unfit. It seems to me that her conduct isn't on the up and up, but that is just my opinion.
2007-03-08 02:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by Stefanie J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm betting that even if your son was a peadiatrician she would still find an excuse for him not to have her un-supervised. This sort of thing really gets my goat. He's her dad for goodness sake, i'm sure he'll not let her come to any harm in any way. All it is is practise makes perfect, we all have to learn somewhere, when i became a mum i'd had absolutely no experience whatsoever, no younger siblings or cousins, but even if i say so myself i've turned out to be pretty good at it.
In my opinion i'd get a court order for joint custody, then she'll have no come back at all.
2007-03-08 02:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call your local health region. They should have all the information on those kind of groups. He would be looking for an introduction to parenting or a new parents class. THis covers everything from changing, bathing, feeding, burping and health and safety issues. As well as first aid for infants. Give them a call and they will be able to give you the contact numbers.
Hope this helps and Congrats on the arrival of the little one!
2007-03-08 02:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can she legally keep him from his own child? Have they been to court at all, what are the legalities there. If there are none, I think he should be looking into that soon!
Contact a local hospital or Family services. They usually both offer parenting classes or learning to care for newborn's, etc... Where I live they are offered monthly. Good luck to you both!
2007-03-08 02:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest he take parenting classes that he can earn a certificate on if you will type in parenting classes in yahoo toolbar im sure you will get alot of results...but you should have one available to you somewhere around where you live...he could go to the local hospital and ask for help they might could refer him to someone that can help him...id try a little harder the fact that you cant figure out something concerns me...there are ways...look harder try harder
2007-03-08 02:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by LUCKYGIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure if you go to the hospital or the american red cross etc..there is somewhere that can teach your son to change and feed your grand daughter...but in the meantime..why don't YOU teach him???..if a social worker were to see him doing it...all she has to do is tell a judge
2007-03-08 02:42:16 · answer #7 · answered by nano 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is` his child and can go to court if needed they atre in the business and know this. all of that will come naturally to him. every first time parent learn sof hands on training. they arent being fair at all. all the men in teh world that wont care for their children and your son wants to be a father to his child and is being told no. hey sh edidnt mak ethis child alone. you change the baby after the diaper is used you feed the baby by holding teh baby and feeding a bottle. you burp the baby. how can he get used to the babie scrys if he cant see him or her? we learn our childs cues and he cant so what i straing going to do if he doesnt know what the baby is crying 4?
2007-03-08 02:39:03 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.Vick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is totally unfair! How is he supposed to learn if she doesnt give him the chance. Maybe you could agree to help him if you had the time! Dont let their legal profession put you off of seeking your own legal advice. Surely this isnt legal! He is entitled to see his daughter!
2007-03-11 11:14:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe tried Planned Parenthood, his doctor's office or even a "babysitting class". They would teach all of that including CPR which could be very helpful in an emergency.
2007-03-08 02:39:04 · answer #10 · answered by dbohanan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋