Me and My husband has been married for 4yrs, i have 4 children ( girls 11y-16y ) from previous relationships he has 7 (6 boys, 1 girl all older 15y-23ys) from 2 previous marriages. He had an affair and produced another child. I will not accept this baby as his until he gets a blood test. He will not give me one. Eveytime his ex-s come over there is no problem, when mine come over to see their children he pitches a fit and says "You can have your baby daddy come over but i can't put my baby picture up." I don't want that baby picture up until he gives me what i want. He is a good man he made one mistake and i can't get past it. I have been good to him. He puts up with my kids and i with his....He has had 3 of his try to stay with us and 1 had a relationship with my 14 yr old daughter when we found out i put him in jail his other kids disrespected me everyday and he did nothing...so i had to let them go back to their mother. am i wrong? Oh we also have 15yrs between us.
2007-03-08 02:31:20 · 11 answers · asked by firstladik02 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is obviously some of you were not reading correctly....He had an affair with a woman while married to me...she is not from a preivious marriage. We were married....I don't believe this baby is his....That'e me....The only reason i want one is to be able to accept this baby. when i found out he was having an affair i aksed him to stop he did so, but a month later she was pregnant...so i have my doubts....if she messed with this married man how do i know she did not sleep with someone else? I only trying to protect myself....because when he can't pay his child support they take my money....so i would like to know if i am paying for a child that is really his. I can't accept that.
2007-03-08 02:56:48 · update #1
First off he owes you this blood test he cheated so he definitely owes you if u don't wanna put him out though he deserves it. Tell him get the test or get the hell on. Theres no reason for this home wrecker to be in your life if she may not even have his child your kids are older so you shouldn't have to deal with his mistake. be careful girl he may still be cheating!
2007-03-08 02:44:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds lik you have some growing up to do. Its not your place to make him get a blood test. If he wants to take resp for the baby then he should. He is the father. Its not very nice of you to reject his child. Perhaps he knows for a fact its his, sounds like he does. You are just in denial.
I don't think you should have married a man with so many children if you couldn't except them in your home.
As for the children not minding you- that needs to be addressed. I am sure they feel some anger towards you for throwing one brother in jail and now rejecting their baby brother. Probably no respect there. Repect is earned and it will take awhile for that to happen esp under the circumstance.
2007-03-08 02:39:33 · answer #2 · answered by momof2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he knows this baby is his I don't see what the big deal is. Don't push him away from his children! Let him put a picture up and let him bond with the little one. You should too cuz the way it sounds. The baby is going to end up being a part of your life.
2007-03-08 02:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by JLEE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking him to take a blood test before he put up a picture. I think that you both have some serious issues and that maybe it would be best if you both went in opposite directions and stayed there.
2007-03-08 02:36:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you both need help, yall are sounding like Jerry Springer material.. yes it is wrong for you to not let him put a picture up..the first thing you need to do is get your tubes tied and he needs to get his swimmers fixed up so no more KIDS!! You need some serious marriage counseling
2007-03-08 03:10:52 · answer #5 · answered by Ms.DaSilva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let him put his picture up, he believes it is his so be it. He let you send his kids back to their mother and have one put in jail. if your only complaint is that he won't have a blood test you are being unreasonable.
2007-03-08 02:50:26 · answer #6 · answered by Lou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds like no one respects whatever it is you stand for.......Most of all, him. Do whatever your head and heart tell you to do. No one is able to advise what you should do in a situation, that YOU must live and find acceptable.
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2016-12-14 13:54:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nut house u have. couldn't u find a man without children? i wonder how much does he make in a month to afford this nut house
2007-03-08 02:35:25 · answer #9 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send this to the Maury TV show and you will be famous.
2007-03-08 02:36:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋