Should I stop, and seek a real job?

Question

I had my daughter 6 1/2 months ago, everyone around me started telling me I seem depressed, went to the doc. they put me on lexapro. I didnt like to take it because the simple fact that the one bad side effect to them is MAJOR. I started working, well as much as i could do.. I babysat (3 kids+ having my own), because i did not want to leave my daughter in a daycare..you just cant seem to trust them...and i'd would rather be with her for atleast the first year...But now I'm worse, I cried the day after valentines day because my roses were dieing...Im very sensitive now, and I have never been this way. I left from babysitting yesterday, and now she keeps calling wanting me back, but, when im away from those kids and just have my baby im much better...not exactly all better...but better..Should I go back to her tomorrow, or should I find a good daycare for my daughter and go back to work fulltime..Anyone been there, done it and felt better? PLEASE HELP

Answer 1

Ask for a new prescription. With side effects like that, lexapro is not the way to go.

There are many other anti-depressant drugs available, and don't stop until you have the right one for YOU!

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P.S. Don't be upset that the flowers died. Be MORE upset at your husband/boyfriend for buying ones that die so quickly!!!

Answer 2

I think your feelings are natural for a new mother you world will never be the same again. You have a big decision to make it will be hard to leave your daughter but taking care of four kids is very stressful. Think things over and do what you think is better for you and your daughter just calm down and think about the worst thing that could happen if you make the wrong decision. Nothing really bad would happen sometimes in life we need to travel both roads to find the right one for us in this case you can. Good luck.

Answer 3

Bring the baby to moms for a little bit and take a vacation. It sounds like you need a vacation. Go somewhere nice with the hubby, maybe a spa resort or something. it will make you feel better. Stress can make you very depressed and everyone knows that kids can create a bit of stress. You might be having some anxiety as well. Maybe going somewhere where you can talk with someone. Talking and relaxing are usually a good cure for anything

Answer 4

Work is not the issue. Post partum depression is. I went thru that, horrible. Get yourself back to the Dr. and get on a better med. This should be a hppy time but for some of us its not. Nothing to be ashamed of, hormones play a majo part. Any way Brooke Shields came out and wrote a book on Post partum depression. Good luck.

Answer 5

You should find a good daycare and go to work. I was sensitive for a while after I had my baby too. You should get out the house and go to work..to get your mind of the stressful situation.So when you come home to your baby you will really get a chance to fully enjoy her and spend time with her without being frustrated.Because when your at home all day it can get a little bit frustrating* good luck

Answer 6

You have a real job,the hardest job out there.Being a mother to a 6 month old is the most important job there is.And I myself suffer from depression and have great results from lexapro,its the best thing out there and the only side effect I found is it had no adverse effects on me.Please be good to yourself and give yourself some credit where credit is due.

Answer 7

It sounds like post-partum. It can last forever it seems like. Can you do a daycare like thing in your own home? You may need to just get out and do something for yourself. Sometimes it helps to just get out and have a girls night. I have been there. Don't let anyone tell you that daycare isn't a real job. I have 2 cousins and an aunt that do it in their own homes. Try it. You might like it better.

Answer 8

For children to enter care in their first three years of life is so damaging to their intellect - because they are not with mommy, not in her arms (infant brain cells only form connections when infants are being held!) and because they are so stressed by the separation - cortisol, the stress hormone that floods the brain of an infant crying for mommy, causes depression and anxiety, impairs learning, and causes stress disorders in adulthood for the infant who suffered so.

NICHD studies have found that kids who enter day care before 5 have school problems that persist for 12 years after stopping day care.

Humans are primates. Have you ever observed primates at the zoo or elsewhere? They never put their infants down. That's how ours evolved, that's what they need. Mommy's milk, mommy's arms, mommy's time and devotion.

No early learning center can deliver the goods for an infant/toddler - it's a lie parents tell themselves to assauge the guilt at the egregious behavior of abandoning their children to be raised by hired help - because infants and toddlers need mommy to learn best.

Answer 9

well i say at home with my daughter and watch a 2 yr old so I can be at home with her. My daughter is 5 months. It is a real job and you must be a great nanny to these kids because they want you back. you should be happy. you have a beutiful daughter and people want you!

Answer 10

Yes you should. I think in cases like yours, it's time to move on and accept what God has given you. As an amateur Psycologist, I believe you need to tone your sensitivity down, and your seriousness up.