How can we control our negative emotions such as anger, fear etc?

Answer 1

i think the better way to do it, is with cognitive therapy. it basically helps you to re-think something before you act on it, which it helps you to become aware of bad behaviors before it happens and eventually you get so use to do in it that you don't' even think about it. it sounds a little hard but it's easier is just like stopping another bad habit

Answer 2

By reasoning. First you have to be fully aware that you are angry or fearful. Realize that it is your emotion in your head. Then try to pinpoint the source of your negative emotions. Ask yourself: "Why am I angry/fearful?" Is the reason for may anger/fear real or is it only my perception?
Will my anger or fear remedy the situation? Usually it won't. So the other option is to address the source of your negative feeling rationally. There are many books on negative emotion, controlling stress, maybe you would want to read some. I can tell you from my experience that they helped me in a way that changed my life.
The simplest method when you get angry is to take a few deep breaths and count slowly to ten.

Answer 3

My solution to this is exercise. It lets you work out your angers and fears and the result on your mind is like that of an antidepressant, this much has been scientifically proven. Just 1/2 an hour of exercise is what you need every day.

However, some people have these emotions as a result of upbringing and conditioning. If that is the case they must do a lot of soul searching to get through it. So a spiritual development is necessary. To go on ignoring the root of the problems is to allow the weeds of anger to continue to sprout.

Answer 4

Inner relaxation can do wonders for you because you develop a coping skill for these feelings.
For anger , I have found that just taking 10 minutes to cool off helps. if you get an angry e-mail wait 10 minutes o respond. The same responding to upsetting news.

For fear , depending on the source, prying helps some people, those that are not religious, thinking positive thoughts can calm your fears.

Visualization: Actually imagine yourself reaching the goals . ie on the other side of the bridge ( if afraid of heights)

Is that what you were looking for? I hope is enough

Answer 5

By reinforcing positive emotions - when you feel rage start say something silly like if someone cuts you off don't swear say something like "ducky mcduckworth flibberbittgget" - then you will have given your brain time to configure the appropriate response. Which is to drive safely and alert so that when the irresponsible drivers come by you see them before they can cause you any anger. If we start our day with upbeat music and stories we can carry that through the day try not to watch the news instead pop in a CD of your favorite happy tunes then, try listening to a CD learning or story on the morning drive - by creating a positive activity in a normally negative time you can learn to carry that calm to the rest of the day. We have to focus on being calm and positive but it is always worth it. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Yes, I think we can do this. But is pretty tough and needs concentration and a great try. A good way to overcome those emotions, in my opinion, is to think how small you are and how tiny are your problems and fears and all these people that drives you mad in front of the whole humanity's huge problems. Your life is to short to waste it being sad or angry.

Answer 7

I think that we have to re-look at the power we have over ourselves. Many people say things like" I can't help it, that is just the way I feel" but that is really a cop out. We have absolute power over our reactions. I call it being "RESPONSE" able! We have the awesome human quality of free will. It means that we are free to chose our actions, our behaviors, our feelings and our attitudes. No one can make you feel anything that you do not want to feel! You can choose how you want to respond to any outside stimulus. The power is yours. It has a lot to do with our attitude about things, that cause us to be angry and even afraid. I learned to have empathy (identification and understanding of the thoughts and feelings of others). Like putting my feet in their shoes to see and understand why they were acting in the way that upset me. Many times I was able to see that their behavior really wasn't personally directed at me, but was because of the things they were going through. This made me so much more understanding and even helped me to be more cautious in the way I responded, or even acted in the first place...you know the choices that we make reflect who we are, so if you want to be less angry or whatever, then just practice beiing more patient, understanding. ..A good speaker I heard once said, "to be understood, first we have to understand"...meaning that it is up to us.

Answer 8

wen am angry a try 2 4get de prob more quickly. this can b done by finkin de most funniest fing u had ever do.u'll see dat u'll 4get ure anger in a min and will start laughin.by doin this,all ure nerves will b relaxed.