2007-03-08 02:28:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The effects are only negative for a brief moment and that's primarily if the kids didn't see any major disagreements before the split occurred or if one parent appears to be abandoning them for a new life. If the parents have been visibly unhappy for long enough for the kid to sense or be aware of that or if they have been witness to abuse then they almost always bounce back VERY quickly as a result of the stress and chaos being removed from their home. It also gives them a chance to see their parents happy in the future with other people which is what they need--a good relationship model.
2007-03-08 02:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even more negative are the effects of a bad marriage kept alive for the "sake of the children". In many cases the divorce is bitter and one or both 'adults' attempts to draw the kids into the fray on their side. (an example of a self serving and poor parent) Those who really care about their children will not attempt to involve them in their conflicts with the 'ex'.
2007-03-08 02:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that is absolutely FALSE. My parents argued constantly when I was growing up and it has made me insecure in my relationships. I always worry about whether or not I am doing the right things for my partner and if I am going to do something to make him upset. I believe that the environment I was raised in also affected me in my ability to communicate my wants and needs.
My husband and I divorced because we were always fighting. I was worried about my daughter, but have realized that she is much happier now. She is able to spend time with each of us without having the distractions that go along with mommy and daddy fighting at home. We are both able to devote our time to her only and focus on having quality time together. I truly believe that I am a better parent because I am happier now and therefore treat my daughter better.
Do I believe in divorce? No. But I know that sometimes it is the only option and kids can and will survive.
2007-03-08 03:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by ncmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The children want the parents to stay together forever. They don't want to see their mom or dad with another person. In their eyes you should love each other no matter what. In most cases the parents don't want the children to look at the other parent as a bad parent so they aren't told the truth as to why their marriage failed. Or they are so hurt by the failure of their marriage they don't want the children to suffer more pain by telling the whole truth. Some kids are just to young to understand.
2007-03-08 02:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by shortgeminilady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude a better question would be "Why do so many WOMEN get pregnant and have children thinking it will save their MARRIAGE". Knowing that when it doesn't work out it will have a NEGATIVE effect on the children. GO FIGURE.
2007-03-08 02:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they lose the scene of stability from marriage!!!!!!
The foundation of there life is in full destruction mode and theres no one to see it through with them because parent's are to busy with anger to work thing out!
People have become LAZY in America and don't think of anything other the five minutes ahead.
I truley hope that changes because I don't think it doing anything but hurting the one who are to take rains in future of the country.
Also I recently found out that parent's who get divorced find that there kids are not as involved in there lives as much in later part of life and a great many of these people are finding them self in rest home well before there time, because kids have no time for parents now.
Something to think about people GREAT QUESTION!!!
2007-03-08 02:40:11 · answer #6 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not true. Would you rather your child stay in a home with yelling and fighting when you are together or live apart and have a good time with your child? It will be hard at first but children adjust well. You guys will still come together for birthdays, school events, and sports. It will work out and Good Luck!
2007-03-08 02:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by chrisisdifferent 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A child's instinctive need for security is threatened by his parents' break-up.
Young children also are not capable of rationalizing or intellectualizing their fears; therefore the damage goes deeper.
2007-03-08 02:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋