I think my husband doesn't love me anymore.?

Question

He is recently distant and does not even look me in the eye or converse with me unless it's to give me hard time about something. I've asked him if something is wrong and he says no. He hasn't told me he loves me in a long time, but that's not that unusual. I can't keep bothering him about it and I am ready to just give up shut down on him. What should I do?

Answer 1

this is very suspicious...when you say that he doesn't look in your eyes, it almost sounds like he regrets something and for this reason he can't look in your eyes or he's mad at you for something. Investigate his behavior to see if there is another women involved. Then, ask him that you're concerned about this situation, and that you're feeling like this is not working. see what he responds and go from there. if he's into you, he will do anything to change the situation, and you guys might need counseling. otherwise, move on cause you can change yourself but you can't change others.
good luck!

Answer 2

Do not keep bugging or asking him things. Let it go and tell him that you want to start going to marriage counseling with him. Give him some distance and space. He may be cheating or havign an affair if he cannot look you in the eye. Ask him if he still loves you and wants this marriage or not. Do not give up on him just give it a little time and see if anything changes. If nothing changes and things get worse pack up and leave for a while.

Answer 3

Some think it is easier and better to throw away what you have and go fishing again. Disposable relationship is what that is called. When problems are encountered, throw them away and get one without problems. Unfortunately, at some point we all run into problems. It's called Life.

Talk to him and let him know that you love him, and that you need to feel that he loves you too. When men are stressed they retreat into "their cave" to sort out the problems and will re-emerge when they have a solution. Women vent. This has been carried over from pre-historic times. Men, the hunters, would have to hole up when a problem arose to plan a way around it, they had only themselves to count on. Women, the gatherers, relied upon the other women, the group, to help them deal with their problems and provide support. He can't help but react the way he does, but you can draw him out of the cave with your love and support. Or, throw him away and get another until the same thing happens. Its a gender thing.

Answer 4

You said it yourself that you have to argue and nag him to even talk to you...There is a few things you can try...
1. Be cordial to him, try to act like nothing is bothering you and once he gives you attitude just ignore and keep acting like your having a good day....

2. Add something different to your relationship, Anything...surprise him to a basketball game Anything cook him breakfast buck naked...

3. Hire a Private investigator or marriage counselor and get your finances together (just in case)...he is ready to leave


He is probably feeling like the relationship is boring and that the relationship is stuck in a routine...If you feel like you've tried to work every option to make this marriage work...maybe it's not the best situation for you to be in.

Answer 5

usually when someone will not look u in the eye they are hiding something, and the person who is hiding something will usually not get into a conversation with u either. think he is cheating on u. u need to ask him if this is what it is, ask him to be honest so u can know what to do about this. this is exactly the way my ex acted towards me before he left me for the home wrecker. ask him, ask what the problem is, and if he would consider therapy, if he refuses the problem isn't with u its with him, and whatever he is doing.

Answer 6

Stay strong and hang in there. I gotta say that you absolutely must keep bothering him until he opens up to you. A relationship is doomed to failure without communication. So to just give up is really giving up on your marriage. I don't know your current living situation so I can only make assumptions according to what you have told us. It really seems that something is bothering your husband. He could be stressed out with work and with getting bills paid in which it's affecting who he is. He could feel guilt for something he has done, not to imply anything. He could just be depressed or feel like he's failing his family. There are several things that could be bothering. If you love your husband and want to make this marriage work then I suggest some serious communication between you two. You have just as much to lose as your husband does, so to stand back and watch it fall apart isn't any better. You really are allowing your husband to treat you this way as you have not asserted yourself in this marriage. You've not voiced your thoughts and concerns to your husband but rather have submitted to his ill treatment of you. If you allow anyone to treat you this way without standing up for yourself, then you are telling them that it is OK to treat you like this. We teach others how to treat us according to our actions. So you've personally shown your husband what is acceptable to you, hence the way he is currently treating you. You can change this anytime you choose to, however it's not gonna be much fun. You will need to be calm, honest and determined to fix this marriage. I'm not telling you to start a fight but rather start a good healthy conversation. Your husband don't know how you feel if you don't tell him and vice versa, which is the problem. It's up to you and only you to pry this out of him. To remind him that you two are in this together. Make him acknowledge that you can't be apart of the solution if you don't know the problem. I strongly feel that lack of communication will kill a relationship, especially with no one willing to fight for it. So I guess you have to ask yourself if this marriage is worth the fight. And if it is, do something about it. You are your husband's partner, not his child nor his mother. So ultimately your actions at this point will determine just how much you want this marriage to work. I hope that you find a voice in this marriage. And I hope you make your husband realize that it is easier for 2 to fix a problem rather than 1 person carry the stress of it all. Good Luck & God Bless!

Answer 7

Talk to him. Communication is the key to a good relationship. If he tells you there's nothing wrong, he's probably lying. More than likely, he's wants you to pry and bug him about it. Confront him about it, but don't ever give up. If you really love him, then what he thinks doesn't matter. What matters is that you love him more than anything and would never give up on him.

Answer 8

Ask him about it. Don't keep things to yourself. You have the rights to know what is going on wrong in your marriage and if he does tell you, hopefully it won't be that he is having an affair. It is hurting and I understand how you are feelings. I am undergoing such the same situation as you except that my husband denies having another woman in his life....

Answer 9

dont waste time busting his chops. Just get into a sexy nighty when he comes home from work offer to make his day better. tell him if he comes home in a good mood and talks a little more about stuff with ya this may happen more often.

Answer 10

Try to set up a time to speak with him, like a serious sit-down talk. Then ask him if he still wants to be with you, still loves you, etc. If you have doubts than only he can clear them up for you.