my mate sam is pregnant and there are 3 possible fathers. should she tell all of them or chose the one she likes the most ? she desperatly needs help !!
2007-03-08 02:28:01 · 34 answers · asked by natasha d 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
DNA testing for all of them. But, the larger question is whether someone who is so unstable as to have unprotected sex with three men should even be considering having a baby?
2007-03-08 02:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by regina s 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Choose the one she likes best???!! Are you kidding me?!? Sounds like a Jerry Springer show. If she doesn't know who the father is, then she better start by doing something right. Let all of them know of the possibility, and get their reactions. If she feels none of them want the responsibility, then she should prepare to make the journey into motherhood, alone. As for child support, she'll obviously have to do paternity tests. The child has the right to know who the REAL father is, no matter if he's a deadbeat or not. No one deserves to be told a lie, based on the whole, but I liked you best thing! Your talking about peoples lives here, she should try being moral, and do the right thing. 3 possible fathers........what are people thinking these days!?! I really do wish her and her baby a happy life. Good Luck!
2007-03-08 02:41:11 · answer #2 · answered by Green eyed girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These things happen quite often. She won't be the first person in this position. Or the last.
I think she should be honest, wait till the child is born and get the dna tests done. This will be really difficult and she'll probably get lots of bad chat about it off everyone. However, I reckon the most important thing to remember is everyone makes mistakes and hopefully learns from them. All you can do is be supportive. If she wants the baby and is planning to be a good mum to it then things will hopefully work themselves out in the end somehow.
2007-03-08 03:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until the baby is born to do a paternity test. It will be a touchy situation for her emotionally to confront all three to see who the father is, however there is a baby who will need to be supported. It would be so much more painfull to both the baby and the father if she were to pick the one that is her choice now only to find out later that it is not later on. As much as it may be embarrassing to ask all three to test - the three men should have also been more protected when having sex with her. It takes two to make a child.
2007-03-08 02:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by ReanneDupris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should definatley not pick the one she likes best.
Its not fair on the guy or the baby is a very selfish thought.
What happens if the child looks nothing like the guy who she picks.
What happens if she make the guy she picks believe he is the dad and he grows to love and care for a baby which turns out not to be his, not fair as it is her who shouldnt have slept around.
Shes your friend and even you must realsie this.
She should make all 3 aware and then get a DNA test after the birth as it sounds like she is planning to keep the baby.
2007-03-08 15:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let all possible fathers know that they might be a dad and get a DNA when the baby is born!! its not fair for the baby and the dad to pick the one she likes the best!! the real father must know
2007-03-08 02:37:25 · answer #6 · answered by LOVELY ME 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should ask them all and when the baby is born get an DNA test done to find out who the father really is.
My friend when though the same thing but the real father didn't want the baby so her boyfriend now signed the birth cret. and calls himself the father.
2007-03-08 02:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by halfdemonrenilia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just fore-warn them all that there is a possibility that they are the father and that she will confirm it at birth with a DNA test. She should NOT choose the one she likes the most as this is deceitful and what is to say he wants to take responsibility for it, especially if it is not his own. Honesty goes a long ways!
2007-03-08 02:34:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I new this one Guy from the United Kingdom who had six different mates ,and the man had a wife at home,and the poor girl had no family there and she was not even ENglish, I am sure you have better options you have relatives and family near buy.
2007-03-08 02:44:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the Jeremy Kyle show! She should tell them all they are possible fathers and get the test when baby arrives, however im not sure they will all be interested if she has been sleeping around.
2007-03-08 02:36:04 · answer #10 · answered by Mumof THREE!!! <3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋