Im planning on moving to VA beach to go to college which has been my dream for years but my boyfriend of 1 year says that if he finds a good paying job up here in WV that he's not going to leave with me. I have one more year of high school left but he is just now getting out and is going to be looking for a job soon. What do you think I should do: live my dream and leave my boyfriend, or stay here and settle for WV so he can keep his job and we can continue to be together? Advice anyone?
2007-03-08 02:20:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is YOUR dream! You are too young to give it up for someone that may not even be in your life a year from now. If you and your boyfriend are meant to be together, then you can make it work while you are off at school making your dream come true and he is in WV with a good job. But, please don't give up on your dream. At the end of the day you are the one that has to be happy with your choices and it won't matter who else is happy if you aren't!
2007-03-08 02:34:36 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberly P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hands down, period, the end - live your dream. DO NOT plan your life according to what someone else is doing at this point. You've got plenty of time when you'll HAVE to do that after you're married. There are no guarantees about how things are going to go in the future with this guy, despite how you feel right now. Live YOUR life, not his and if he fits into yours, there may be a future, but don't change your life to fit his just to preserve a relationship.
2007-03-08 11:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by SteveB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No question about it.........go for your dreams. You are young still. Who says this is the guy u are going to spend the rest of your life with? At 17 years old I picked a guy over my dreams, and here I am 35 years later, divorced and untrained with no career. That is the one decision in my life that I regret the most. If you are meant to be together in the end, then u will be, but don't give up your future for it. Please take advice from someone who lived that exact experience. Good luck
2007-03-08 10:26:56 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my advice to you is since you're still in high school and getting ready to go to a school you've always dreamed about, I'd say go to school. If you mean that much to him etc, then this isn't going to hurt the relationship. Don't follow him because you're scared you might lose him =) Once you do get into college, you're going to meet a ton of new people, try new things and take on more challenges. This will also give you guys a chance to grow as well.
2007-03-08 10:24:57 · answer #4 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of town! GO TO COLLEGE!! trust me, there will be plenty of guys at VA Beach to take your mind off your high school boyfriend. do not give up your dreams for a guy you've been dating as a teenager. if you do, one day you are going to wake up at 20 or 25, and realize that you missed out on so many new experiences and opportunities. if your high school sweetheart is the one for you, he will find a way to stay with you while you are in college.
2007-03-08 10:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by SmartAleck 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the saying "if you love someone, let them go, and if it was meant to be they will come back to you?" Follow your dreams or else you will regret it somewhere later in life and blame him for it. Plus, you are way too young. If you go away to college it will a great experience for you and I bet you will meet an even better guy. Very unlikely you will stay with a high school sweetheart forever.
2007-03-08 10:27:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your dream. You are too young to make a commitment like that to one guy. Go and discover the world, if he is truly the one for you, he will keep in touch, visit and such. If not, then it wasn't met to be. There are plenty of fish in the sea. A friend of mine when to Germany and her boyfriend followed her there. That is love. You might want to ask, why is it all about what he wants? If a good job is more important to him than your happiness that is not a good thing.
2007-03-08 10:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by Petra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live your dream and go to college. You have your whole entire life ahead of you. Boyfriends who are not concerned about your wishes and dreams and who only care about themselve are a dime a dozen.
Go forward and if he comes with, fine, if he staies behind, that is fine too.
2007-03-08 10:24:45 · answer #8 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not give up my dreams for a boyfriend of one year. If you and him are truly meant to be then he would be willing to help you see your dream through. You are young and full of life. Don't settle! If you do you will regret it for the rest of your life.
2007-03-08 10:24:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not even giving up his job 4 u, why would u give up ur dreams 4 him?you can find another boyfriend but u will always regret it if u decide to stay
2007-03-08 10:25:23 · answer #10 · answered by kwlcmmm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋