hello .. im getting married n will be having sex for the first time. inspite of having a very understanding fiance im treeified of pain during sex for the first time
please give me some words of motivation so that i'll be able to ferform without fear
i love my fiance very much n do not want to disappoint him.. i want to overcome that fear
help me please !!
2007-03-08 02:17:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
My telling you to relax probably won't help because you are already freaking out! So, just make sure that you are plenty lubricated.
It is going to hurt, but guess what, we all lived through it, and went back for more!
If you are worried that you will be too nervous to be naturally lubricated, bring some K-Y jelly with you on your Honeymoon. I would not suggest the "warming" type for your first try, just go with the regular one.
And make it fun, don't be serious about it. The best sex you can have is when you have sex with your husband that you love, so you made the right decision in waiting. I wish I had.
I'm going to be a little graphic here, so bear with me...it might be helpful for you if he brings you to orgasm first, either manually or orally.
You may still be sore the next day, but every time you sit down, you will have a nice little reminder of the night before!
2007-03-08 03:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...first of all, the first time you have sex, i clumsy and un-fun. Unless your the only virgin. If your fiance is experienced sexually, he should know to gentle and give you guidance. Since he was understanding enough and loving enough to wait for sex til marriage, then you have no reason to disappoint him. Let the feelings of your love for each other move you. Kissing, fondling, caressing is a must! Sorry but to activate your sexual buttons those things are a must. Your gonna be fine, don't get so worried about it. Look at all the babies born every day, those people had a first time too. You just need to be willing to explore each other and do it with love and honesty. Talking to each other on what our sexual needs are encouraged.
Don't worry if it wasn't fire works the first time, I'm sure he won't be hesitant to try try again.
2007-03-08 03:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by earthyideas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you better get your question out of the web coz your going to jopardize your excitement. your fiance will be more dis appointed if he will find out that your not acting naturally during your honeymoon coz you already know what will happen and what to do. just let things to happen naturally during your first night. hehehe .
2007-03-08 02:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by dandoy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have one word of advice, foreplay. You and your husband should have plenty of foreplay before he even thinks about penetrating you. This will help relax you so your muscles aren't clenched, and will make sure your vagina has produced plenty of lubrication.
2007-03-08 09:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by aqx99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, u are one in a million to wait til the honeymoon.
First just relax and let it go naturally .
it may hurt the first time if you are not relaxed.
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2007-03-08 02:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋